Bad behaviour in 3 year old

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What do you do about really bad behaviour in 3 year old? I’m talking that we find it difficult to do anything - like going to a kids animal park he will be running around throwing everything and going up to other children and grabbing them. That or he’s just having a tantrum unless he’s ultra focussed on something. But then sometimes he’ll be fine and great with kids he’s knows very well (and so sweet!) but then we have a bad time again. How do you know when it’s more than just normal bad behaviour and something else?

Nursery aren’t very helpful. He only goes part time and they say he can be very difficult but he’s also moved rooms so blaming it on that too. Before then in his old room it had been bad but then he suddenly got better?

It can be so stressful and we basically don’t take him to kid’s birthday parties now.

part of it is just being 3. If he can't cope with busy parties, then don't take him to busy parties for a bit.

sounds like he gets on better in calm places or where there is space. why not get good waterproofs and go to the playgrounds / parks that are empty in the winter.

things may calm down as he matures. but try to keep an eye on triggers - work out what caused a tantrum etc

It seems more than that. We basically can’t take him anywhere with other kids as he’s so difficult and will constantly throw everything. Do a lot of them go through this stage or does he have a problem?

I hate the term ‘bad behaviour’ because we don’t know the reason behind the behaviour and what’s causing it

nit much advice. It does sound like normal 3 year old behaviour but you know your child more than anybody on the internet. Perhaps speak to your HV?

sounds as if he finds a lot of situations overwhelming and over stimulating - which again isn’t bad behaviour it’s him not coping with his surroundings

I think you need to look at the behaviour and work out what your child is communicating through it.
Tantrums are not behaviour they are becoming dysregulated so try to find a way to keep yourself calm and try to infect your child with your calmness. And look out for the triggers as you can avoid tantrums sometimes if you get good at spotting triggers and dealing in advance.
One example might be giving your child an option, eg teaching them to move to a quieter area in the park/etc if they feel overwhelmed.
3 years can be tough I find the hardest part is if we need to do something and my preschooler is not wanting to get ready, then it turns into a choice between taking him out half dressed or dressing him by force, both off which aren't great options for different reasons.
The main thing is knowing it's not about you, it's just a tough time and it will get better if you keep communicating with your child! Good luck.