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How to deal with husbands depression

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Cherry85 · 19/12/2022 15:54

DH and I got married 3 years ago and our DS is nearly 4. After contracting covid, DS was diagnosed with a small blood clot on the lung (I mean they thought it would be gone before leaving the hospital small thanks to a blood thinning jag). Since then DS's life has revolved around this blood clot diagnosis. He obsesses over his heart rate and blood pressure, refuses to do any exercise as he needs to 'start slowly', he also quit his job to focus on his health but is heavier than ever (his shape doesn't in anyway bother me but means he is snoring worse than ever so I ended up sleeping in the spare room).

Meanwhile I am working and doing all the house work whilst he sits about and gets angry when I challenge it.

He has alot going on at the moment as his mum is terminally ill and he spends a lot of time there but the rest of the time on the sofa.

I just don't know how long to let it go on for or how to move forward? I feel like if this is for ever then I want out, but don't want to walk away when all this is going on and may be temporary.

Any tips?

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TalkToTheHand123 · 19/12/2022 16:08

Sorry to hear the issues.

Who does the shopping? Maybe ask him to come with you for a family walk or something to get him out the house for a bit of exercise? Has he been to the gp for his depression / is he on any medication for it?

BCBird · 23/12/2022 16:36

Depression is a cruel condition for the patient and their loved ones. My advice to u is to prioritise you too. U must not tske on the rile of unqualified counsellor or enabler as you will onli suffer. Believe me I know. I think that depression can sometimes make some people blinkered. It is not necessarily deliberate but it does happen. As for giving up.his job,it's not fair for you to shoulder all the financial burden. Perhaps he could seek some counselling? Hopefully this will lick start him.to.being more proactive. Good luck

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