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so if your 5yo left a full potty balanced on a toy suitcase in her cupboard

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fruitfulinotherways · 02/02/2008 12:38

She is at the park with dh and ds. I just went to put something away in her cupboard (its a fitted one with carpet at the bottom). The toy castle was in front of it so I reached over, opened the door, thought "oh thats where the potty is" and leant down to get it. I only realised that it was full of wee as I picked it up (and spilt it).

The potty is waiting for ds to decide to potty-train. dd has been using the toilet for 3 years now. Its not ds's wee - he couldn't get his nappy back on again.

I'm tempted to say I'm not going to clean the toy suitcase, and throw it away. Seems like a suitable "consequence". Dh will say this is mean and to let her off if she says sorry. What would you do?

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morningpaper · 02/02/2008 12:42

I wouldn't make a big thing of it

I would say please don't do it again, or if you do it, empty it out

She is probably experimenting in some weirdy 5 year old way

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 02/02/2008 12:43

Why are you so annoyed ??

Tickle · 02/02/2008 12:44

ditto mp - our dd1 had a go at pooing in the flower bed aged 5.5 - just one of those things! Explain that she shouldn't and leave it at that

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Hulababy · 02/02/2008 12:45

Have you asked her about it and how come she did it?

I think a more suitable sanction would be to get her to help you wash the suitcase, rather than throw it away.

Slubberdegullion · 02/02/2008 12:48

Maybe she was doing an experiment to see how many wees it took to fill up a potty, and then when it was full realised it was a tad tricky to manhandle, so hid it instead.

I'd go with please don't do it again and then the cleaning option.

morningpaper · 02/02/2008 12:48

I wouldn't make her wash the suitcase

not for a First Offence

it is obviously some secretive experimenting - don't make her feel ashamed about it or bang on about how dirty it is, just explain the Right Way To Go About It

washing suitcase maybe for second offence

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fruitfulinotherways · 02/02/2008 12:59

They're not back yet so I haven't talked to her. I doubt she'll be able to give a reason.

I'm so annoyed because I am sleep deprived and hormonal I should think (8wk-old baby). And because dd and ds have been fighting all morning. And because dd has recently turned into a teenager who doesn't listen to me, doesn't do what I ask and keeps throwing strops. Which obviously has something to do with the 8-wk-old I expect, but the cumulative effect is that spilling a potty of her wee over the floor makes me really cross!

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morningpaper · 02/02/2008 13:02

Aw, poor you!

I must admit I had a fetish for pissing in jam jars in the garden when I was a child. I would have mortified if I'd been discovered!

Obviously now I am QUITE normal and balanced...

jangly · 02/02/2008 13:14

You don't think she might be frightened to go to the toilet on her own in the night so uses the potty? Perhaps something she has seen on tv has frightened her, or something? Just a thought.

NineUnlikelyTales · 02/02/2008 13:22

With an 8 week old sibling she's probably having a go at being a baby again and has correctly guessed that you would be cross about the potty so has hidden it. I would be tempted to just clean up the mess and never mention it unless it happens again.

Morningpaper at least yours were only wees. I had a short phase of pooing out of my brother's bedroom window What the nighbours must have thought of my bare bum I can only guess.

I can't believe I just told you that.

soapbox · 02/02/2008 13:23

Good grief! poor child!

NatalieJane · 02/02/2008 13:26

DS1 did something similar a few months back, but it was one of DS2's nappies rather than a potty. I told him he wasn't to do it again because nappies cost a lot of money, so they can't be wasted. I put it down to some kind of 5 year old's experiment, and left it. He hasn't done it again.

MarchionessSagacious · 02/02/2008 13:29

I wouldn't mention it at all.
Just clean up, and put the potty somewhere else until it is needed.

FrannyandZooey · 02/02/2008 13:31

oh god I can completely understand why you are hacked off, but please don't punish her - it was just a piece of silliness - sounds to me like she probably wanted to try the potty, did so, got embarrassed, didn't know how to get rid of the wee, so hid it

she didn't meant to hack you off, don't give her too hard a time

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fruitfulinotherways · 02/02/2008 19:48

Apparently the princess castle needed an ensuite bathroom. Sigh. We have made our peace.

And I have tidied up the aftereffects of yesterday's hairdressing game too ...

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fruitfulinotherways · 02/02/2008 19:51

I do love MN. Look at this conversation -

A) I found an open container of urine in my wardrobe!

B) Why are you annoyed?

Nowhere else.

And I can't believe you told us that, either, NineUnlikelyTales.

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Desiderata · 02/02/2008 19:57

Wow, MP. Your family must have got through a lot of jam

DoodleToYou · 02/02/2008 20:14

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Bink · 02/02/2008 20:19

oh doodle ...

fruitful, glad peace is made. I imagine she will be feeling mortified, somewhere deep inside if not on the surface, and sort of relieved to have been found out. Very new siblings do do things to people (she says, recalling some questionable & not dissimilar behaviour in 1965 when her own new twin siblings arrived)

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