Biological father wanting to see son after 6 years, need help

[thelionkinggonegal]

Hi everyone,

So to make it quick I had my son 6 years ago with someone who basically left me while I was pregnant when he really wanted to have a baby. He did not get involved whatsoever, so did not come at the birth or legally recognized my son I was left all alone to raise him. I have not heard from him in the past 6 years just knew he was living abroad.
Since then I've rebuilt my life and met the most amazing man that took me and my son and now we are growing our family. My life has been so good since I've met him and my son (even though he knows he's not his biological father) considers him his daddy. My plan was for my partner to adopt my son so we can be one happy united family.
However, I've been contacted by my son's biological father recently, saying he now wants to have a relationship with my son after 6 years of radio silence. He's obviously a complete stranger to my son and I'm scared it's going to mess up his stability as I know now this person can't be trusted. I would be so scared to have him around visiting and don't think it's fair either that he could just enjoy the "good stuff" aka have a nice relationship visiting from time to time like he's been asking for, when he does not bare any of the responsibilities I have been facing over the past 6 years. It is also unfair regarding my partner who has been a full on dad to my son for the past 5 years raising him like his own.

What do you think about this situation? What should I do and say to the biological father? Does he have any visits rights given that he did not recognize my son?

Thanks for your help

That's part of what she would ask the court to consider. But I'm talking about things like domestic abuse, a serious drug problem, sexual abuse of a child. You can't just say 'I don't have any reason to think he's dangerous but I don't know he's not' without some evidence of why you think he is.

unfortunately the law doesn't view things that way.

Speaking as someone who grew up with an absent father, I would have struggled to forgive my mother if she had turned down a request for him and I to have a relationship, even if it was with good intentions.

If a mother abandons a child at birth the child is adopted and she loses the right to make any contact . The child also loses any right to contact them until they are 18.

I don't think it should be any different for fathers.

What you think isn't relevant though as the law doesn't agree with you. You're also wrong about adoption and about what happens if mother doesn't raise a child she gives birth to.

The law needs a serious shake up, the FNF hysteria and billionaire lobby have gone too far. Even one month absent father is one month too long. 6 years? He needs to be persecuted for neglect, not protected.