Sat here in tears

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Just another night of 0 sleep

my 11.5mo doesn’t sleep well and lately is cutting some teeth which worsens it.

m I’ve also tried to cut any sort of night bottle out so he just has pre breakfast one and bed time one

but sometimes he seems to be hungry (I heard belly rumbling) when he wakes so I feel like a failure and give him some milk so some days it’s 3 bottles. But it’s hard as when he’s in nursery (4 days a week) I trust when they say what he’s ate? So if he has refused something tbere i. Ensure to give him something to make up for it at home

im crying just because he took so long to settle Nd it was hard and I feel so alone

He’s my everything but the older he gets I’m starting to see me and him as a team and my boyfriend (his dad) seperate

I get our relaitonship is probably having a rough patch but it’s hard to solve it when sleep deprivation is there and I just feel anger towards him (boyfriend not my son)

:( sorry just needed to vent

💐 ☕️ I remember those sleep deprived days and lonely nights when you think you’re the only one in the world who is awake. It’s really tough and a time when you question your own judgement because you’re just so knackered, but it passes and things get better.

My two were terrible for not sleeping. I can’t even remember a lot of the time what we gave them and night in terms of number of feeds. Youngest is 9.

he could be waking with teeth, memories of the day where he had a really good fun day, because of a growth spurt, and it is hard to figure it out. Ashton and Parsons teething powders worked for us.

You can’t go wrong really, extra bottle of he needs it but you need sleep so take each day and night as it comes, try not to worry.

Make a peanut butter sandwich before you go to bed for when he wakes up

You are not alone. I'm up right now with the baby.

Have you tried...
Lavender moisturiser on baby
White noise, brown noise, pink noise etc - look on you tube or music
Anbesol
Putting your scent on baby bed clothes and bedding and mistress cover
Dining lights as baby is settling for bed and slowly dinning then until off
Feeding to sleep
Humidifier
Checked the temperature of babies room is right
Having baby in your room if you've moved baby out already there's no harm in moving back in if your sleep deprived
Banana before bed works a dream
Tiring baby out in the day
Atleast 3 hours awake time before bed time
Routine- bath, pjs, story, feed to sleep

Don't worry about the milk.. My 17 month old still has milk 3x a day and sometimes an extra one if she wakes up hungry. Just roll with your senses, if he's hungry, feed him.

Oh a definitely an extra snack after nursery to make sure they're full!

He's bound to be hungry at night though if he's only having 2 bottles a day? Nursery portions are tiny and probably not filling. They don't fill up on food at that age. Mine were breastfed so hard to compare but they had at 4 milk feeds on nursery days. Often a night feed too.

Up his milk during the day. Good luck!

Give him supper before bed. Some weetabix or something.

Sorry you're struggling. It's the worst.
Then being hungry is probably a chicken and egg situation, they're up so much so end up hungry.
Personally I would sleep train at that age. But it depends on your parenting ethos. It would be harder to do when they're older.

Don’t cut out milk. Give him supper too.

What are you giving him for the pain? I would give nurofen and anbesol liquid.

He sounds hungry so I would do a tea when he gets home and more milk in the day

Why be bothered about cutting milk when he is waking and quite possibly hungry - doenst make any sense

I never trust what they eat at nursery...their portions are small, most ends on the floor yet they will say they eat it all when you know at home they don't

I would personally up milk, tea before bed and see how you get on x

provid you are both working, you need to share this nighttime burden with your boyfriend. Otherwise it’s not fair.

Fill him up before bed , bowl of porridge or cereal and a bottle of milk , if you’ve cut out night feeds it won’t be long before he sleeps through. Also try calpol as could be in pain from the teeth.

If he’s hungry and wanting a bottle then give him one, I don’t see the sense in not giving him one ‘just because’ ? Chances are after having a bottle he might go back to sleep easier.

I would also offer him extra food during the day. He sounds hungry. Teething is also really tough for him plus he’ll be going through another developmental leap around this time.

@EJRB EJRB

They don’t actually need night feeds after 6 months, if you carry on giving bottles whenever they wake they will never sleep through you need to up the food and milk in the day.

This is totally untrue 🙄

OP if he is hungry I would give him some milk. It won’t last forever and he will eventually sleep through.

@Thesearmsofmine it’s not untrue , you can gently try and night wean from 6 months. I breastfed and and worked on getting baby to fall asleep without feeding and by 10 months he slept through. You carry on though giving night bottles , sorry but this is why you see 4 year olds still having bottles in the night and with rotten teeth.

Let me just add before I get attacked if your child has SEN that is completely different.

So so hard!
I don't really have any solutions, but wanted to say that I have seen what they feed the kids at nursery and the portion sizes are tiny compared to what my son eats at home. So I'd make sure he has a proper hot meal at home and milk before bed!
They are growing so much at the moment and need lots of calories

Xxx

Don’t worry about giving bottles. My twins are 16 months and still have loads of formula!

On nursery days we usually offer a little porridge to make sure they’re not hungry before bed. They do get a tea at nursery around 4.30pm. I also make sure I check the naptimes incase they slept too late and adjust bedtime otherwise it’s a nightmare. I think around that age we’d make sure nursery woke them up by around 2.30pm :)

To add they don’t actually wake up in the night often.

Bottles are fine. 😊