Want another baby but can’t right now!!

[nyyyd]

Someone give me ways to make me want to wait more and stave off these broody thoughts!!

Before anyone says there’s never a right time for a baby etc - we definitely can’t have another until DS gets his free hours in nursery. He goes 4 days a week ( and is only 1! So if we had another next year we’d have to pay 2x 4 days of nursey fees for a little bit and we couldn’t afford it at all

so we need to wait until then but wow I just feel like I can’t wait for another baby and to be pregnant again! And that moment when you give birth and meet the baby you’ve been growing for so long ❤️

ah yes please talk me out of this🤦🏻‍♀️

Figure out the date you can get pregnant while avoiding overlapping nursery fees and plan to try and get pregnant then. Count down on your calendar if you must.

Then focus on the time you have now with just one baby. When the second one arrives, you will never again get to dedicate all your attention to your firstborn so enjoy it while you can.

Endlesslaundry has said it all.

It would not be a good idea to become pregnant right now so don't. You have a lovely child which is a blessing some people never achieve (not that that will stop you feeling broody at times), concentrate on your child and enjoy your life. In a short while everything will fall into place. Good luck.

Wait till the toddler years hit you in the face! It’s like a natural contraceptive :)

I know how u feel lol. My DD is only 7 weeks old and I feel like I can’t wait to do it all again, my family think I’m mad 😂

My Youngest 4 are all 18 months apart, so I have an almost 5 year old, 3.5, 18 months and 2 weeks.

I totally get being broody :)

My second baby was born 3 days before DS turned 2. A 2 year old and a newborn was complete and literal hell at times.

DS1 brought a stomach bug home at 2y3m when DS2 was 3 months old, the idea of him catching the stomach bug was terrifying to me. DS2 was exclusively breastfed so the idea of me getting poorly was really scary as he was fully reliant on me.

DS1 also started with very tricky toddler behaviour once he turned 2 1/2 and it was horrible trying to balance the two of them. I felt like I was splitting myself on two and never giving either of them what I felt the really needed.

Also daily childcare/nursery/school runs take all the shine off of the new born days. There was no lounging around in bed/at home or anything like that. It was go go go from the second we came back from hospital. It also takes the shine off the pregnancy to be honest, you're busy being a parent. So it doesn't really matter how sick or achey or tired you feel. You can't just put your feet up and rest like you might have done in your first pregnancy.

I'm saying this as someone with a 3y3m old and a 1y3month old- we're still very much in the thick of it. I'm back at work full time and the kids have been constantly ill for the past few weeks. I love them dearly but it's a lot to handle, I do sort of wish I had a larger age gap between them.

Terrible 2s are awful. Trust me. You'll want to be able to give her most of her attention without added responsibility over your head. I have a DD turning 3 in March and a 3 month old DS.

all the money in the world would not get me to have another a baby mine are all grown up and moved out tantrums and teen years no thank you

We had to wait to save up for IVF. What helped me was focusing on how I could best spend the time I had to with my DS before there was a second on the scene!

I was pregnant with DD2 by the time DD1 was seven months old! Mind you, childcare costs were lower in those days.
There is much to be said for getting all the nappies/teething/tantrums etc over in one fell swoop, and as the girls were only 16 months apart, they played together really well and liked the same stages of toys.
However, as PPs have said, it is gruelling to cope with two under two.
And more so in my case, as DH died unexpectedly, just before DD2’s first birthday.
Don’t spoil your time with your toddler fretting over wanting another. If the cost is out of the question, just enjoy what you have, and look forward to when it will be possible to try again.

I’m also thinking about 2nd child. My DS is 20 months and there is still a lot of carrying him when he is tired/ill/ grumpy/shy.

Its still very physical and he’s really heavy. I can’t imagine doing it while pregnant.

Think we’re going to aim for a 3 year age gap and hope to have potty training cracked before 2nd DC hopefully arrives.