This may be long so apologies in advance.
we have 3 kids 13, 5 and 3. Ex is awaiting trail for threatening behaviour and coercive control. He's not allowed to contact me for now.
He told me he was moving away to the other side of the country so I moved when a job opportunity came up 3 hours away.
He's now sent a solicitor letter saying he wants the kids every other weekend. I don't drive and he wants them by 4pm Friday untill 4pm Sunday. The younger ones have never been without me. And he proposes that to avoid us seeing each other drop off and contact will be at his mums house. We had been doing that before and each time he was there and threw threats at me ect in front of the kids so obviously this won't work as already shown. He lives with his mum. New girlfriend and her kids. In a two bed house So no space either.
He's also refused to give kids back at agreed times so I just can't trust him not to try keep the kids.
He does drugs one of the many reasons for breaking up. I know 100% he takes it around his new gfs baby (not his) the witness to this is my brother.
There was an instance of one of the kids sustaining a non accidental injury. Was all investigated and sorted but I've always thought it could've been him. As I know it wasn't me.
I had to get a food bank package so he could spend £500 on a game. His words are coz I claimed child benefit that should pay for everything.
Kids don't know the whole mess I've tried to keep them sheltered. I don't bad mouth him. They never ask for him.
Eldest hates him. Refuses to see him or talk to him. Untill he started plying her with vapes.
I'd much rather it went to court and had some "protection" in place. I have no clue where to start. I'm genuinely worried about him around the kids unsupervised. Longest he's ever had them was 3 hours in all thier lives.
There is so so much back story to this but I don't want to write pages of text.
Basically what do I do? I can post a picture of said letter with identity blanked out