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10 month old won’t stop shouting

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HumanDummy2022 · 13/12/2022 18:11

.. and it’s driving me bonkers.

Nearly 10 month old DS. Not crying or screaming in pain / discomfort, just shouting. At the top of his lungs with an indignant / angry look on his face.

I’m assuming he’s frustrated. He’s only just started commando crawling but will only do it when he really wants something that he shouldn’t have (my phone, a glass of water, a remote etc). Even surrounded by toys he just lies on his tummy propped up on his hands and shouts at me.

He just shouted all the way through dinner (and he’s normally a good eater) and I couldn’t work out what he wanted - I ended up giving him random stuff like my table mat just to try to work it out. When I eventually took the plate of uneaten food away he shouted at me for doing that too.

When I carry him around atm he just shouts (seemingly at nothing) as well. He shouts at baby groups and on play dates too. I know this is ridiculous to say but it’s quite embarrassing. He’s a big baby too and I don’t want people thinking my ordinarily sweet boy is a little thug!

The last couple of days he’s also bitten me at the end of every breastfeed. I remove him as calmly as poss and say “no biting” and he laughs 🙄

Oh and as I’ve mentioned before under this username, he doesn’t settle for me but does for his dad. He snuggles onto DH’s shoulder and conks out or at least relaxes and then self settles in the cot, but on me he just thrashes and shouts like he’s trying to get away.

Basically it just doesn’t feel like he likes me very much at the moment. I know that’s stupid, and he’s always so happy to see me in the morning / whenever I’ve been away for a while, but wtf won’t he stop shouting at me? It’s starting to get me down tbh.

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Pizzaandsushi · 13/12/2022 19:58

My 9 month old has started doing the same. I mean he was always demanding but the shouting at basically anything he doesn’t like is new and like you it’s over pretty much anything and everything.
As far as I’m aware it’s perfectly normal and just them realising they have a voice that gets them attention and things they want. Also elements of frustration. Ours can commando crawl but can tell he’s desperate to get places fast and it’s not happening so he gets annoyed. I’ve never had a toddler but that’s what it feels like haha. Little baby tantrums. I’m hoping he mellows out when he can do more for himself. He hates being a baby.
I also read babies and children show more emotion with those they feel safest with. When my mum visits he’s much calmer and smily with her than with me unless she’s with us for a while and then he starts acting out with her. He’s comfortable with us and so I guess in a way that’s a very good thing even if it’s tiring.

SheWoreYellow · 13/12/2022 19:59

Is it worth doing some baby signing with him so he can tell you what he wants sometimes?

TheShellBeach · 13/12/2022 20:00

Well, that's normal, and the good news is that they get over it.

Well, mine all did. Eventually.

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TheOceanClub · 13/12/2022 20:58

Mine is almost 2 and still shouting every day. Just for the sake of it.

HumanDummy2022 · 13/12/2022 22:53

Thank you @Pizzaandsushi , it’s helpful to hear from someone in the same boat! I guess he’s just finding his voice, wants to voice a few frustrations and doesn’t know about volume control yet… Interesting idea that he’s the most vocal with the person he feels safest with. I’ll remind myself of that tomorrow when he’s shouting in my face!

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HumanDummy2022 · 13/12/2022 22:55

Yes @SheWoreYellow good idea - I’ve tried doing some sign with him for “finished” and “milk” but not getting much traction yet… He’s too busy shouting to calmly look at my hands and work out what I’m doing! I’ll keep at it though.

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MoanySloney · 13/12/2022 22:58

He's not shouting. He's communicating in the only way he knows how.

It's common when they can't tell you what they want or get it themselves. Both of mine did it. Like a whiney whine all of the time.

Do you breast feed him? He probably thinks of you as nothing more than the provider of milk. If he doesn't want milk he's outta there. Just put him down and don't take it personally when he's grumpy.

HumanDummy2022 · 13/12/2022 23:03

“He probably thinks of you as nothing more than the provider of milk.”

Ouch! But thanks for the tough love @MoanySloney, I guess?!

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CurlyOrchid · 14/12/2022 12:45

My almost 10 month old is exactly the same and it’s draining! She’s an impossible sleeper and has eight teeth she uses to bite the hell out of me during breastfeeds. She can’t move at all so that makes her worse I think because she can’t get where she wants to go.
I hope that learning to communicate will mellow her out a bit but that’s so far off!

Season0fTheWitch · 14/12/2022 13:01

He's just expressing himself, it's normal! Make sure he's entertained, active etc. As long as he's doing tummy time, crawling, holding your hands and standing with lots of support then he's fine. He might quieten down when he can walk/move more and won't be so frustrated.

NippyWoowoo · 14/12/2022 13:08

Signing 'more' nipped this in the bud in about a week.

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