Little background: we were on an off since my dd was born until she was three. He abusive the whole time and attacked me so I left. He was arrested however it was hours away from home ( at a caravan holiday) and my only way back (didn't have money or means of travel or famil to help at time) was his mum who made me drop charges before bringing me home. He was seeing her supervised every other weekend overnight at family's house. This was never consistent. Chose not to see her throughout the entire lockdown the first one. Every chance he could took to change weekend and cancel. His own mother booked her 50th birthday party on my daughters birthday ( her birthday was in may my daughters is in July) He not moved to Spain in beginning off October and has seen her for 2 hours since then when he flew back for a party and to see his gf and have his son overnight. My dd knew this was happening and devastated. Dd is 6, had seen many specialist and awaiting diagnosis for ADHD, and has been put into counselling ( through the school) because of issues with her dad) and he just continues to take the mick won't pay actual
Child maintenance. Every time she sees him she comes back with such challenging behaviour, out of routine. Had to tell him so many times because her hair hasn't been brushed and she's not dressed appropriately for weather, she hardly gets to see his other son who she sees as a brother and how he's with a new girl he's probably going to knock up. I don't want her to hate me for getting involved but I just think this relationship is more damaging than it is beneficial. What would you do?