Last month I visited my dad and his partner for their wedding. The day after their wedding we met my dad in a pub, he was very drunk and tried to kiss my baby on the lips. I asked him not to, but he still tried anyway, so I gave baby to my dh as I was getting upset.
Later that night I got some nasty messages off his new wife about what happened.
I explained to her why I didn't want baby kissed on lips, as my sil nearly died from rsv and I worry about my baby getting it too as he was quite ill when he was born and was on antibiotics. She was trying to say everyone in the family would want to do that, but my dad is the only one who tries to kiss baby on lips.
Fast forward to this month and my dad has just been for a visit, he gave us some photos from the wedding and one was of him kissing my baby on the lips. They both know how I feel about that now and why it worried me so much, so I'm not sure why they gave me a photo of him doing that.
The only reason I can think is that they think I'm a bad mum who doesn't care about her baby. But I love him more than anything and just want him to be happy and healthy, and now I feel really guilty that I'm not protecting him like I should. I know it's happened now and I can't change that but I'm just struggling to get over it, my dad and his wife obviously think I'm awful.