My DH, 2 y/o DS and I don't spend a lot of time together. Due to our shifts, we tend to have one day a week as a 3 and one day a week one on one with DS.
I know this isn't completely unusual but I am so surprised how different our parenting styles are. Yesterday for example, it took over 20 minutes of perseverance but eventually I got my DS to drink from an open cup. It was hard work and I felt bad for really pushing it but I showered him with praise when he got it. He's quite fussy with what we watch on telly, so when I put one of my favourite Christmas films on, I wasn't optimistic. We had some tears for about 2 minutes but it didn't take long until he was cuddled up on the sofa watching the whole film! I even managed to encourage him by the afternoon with minimum prompting to hold my hand when we went out. It was a really lovely day but my DH tells me such a different story about today.
My DH couldn't get him to drink out of an open cup after trying for a couple of minutes so ended up giving up.
DS demanded exact episodes of TV shows, getting half way through and asking for something else. My DH complies with this. They seemed to have a nice afternoon out though.
I'm not saying my way is best but it's frustrating that I feel like I make progress with DS and it feels undone. Maybe it's not right that I'm putting pressure on my DS when he's so little and while it can feel a bit harsh sometimes, watching his confidence grow and happiness when he masters something new is amazing. DH is angry this evening that DS doesn't seem to behave as well with him. He will not accept my reasoning that I think he is hindering DS's progress by keeping him in how comfort zone (I put it a bit more gently than this!)
Has anyone else experienced this and struggled?