Does your one year old listen and obey?

[Clydethecaterpillar]

Baby just turned 1. Baby has an eye for danger and has started walking independently, likes to get into things. Responds to his name and the occasional no, but most of the time needs to be removed from the situation or reminded of kind and gentle hands for play. DM thinks this is atrocious and he should be ‘listening and obeying by now’ banging on about how he desperately needs to be ‘trained’.

does your one year old listen?

I’m doing well if my 8-14 year olds DCs listen and obey 😆

Of course not, your Mum is insane! I would think very carefully before leaving the two of them alone together for any length of time.

My 3 and 5 year olds don’t listen and obey 100% of the time. Completely normal as far as I know.

No.

What your child is doing is perfectly normal.

I have a 14 month old DD she most definitely does not listen or obey, pretty much pretends she's deaf half the time 🙄

They can't assess danger.
He'll understand more when he's 2 and will definatly not listen then!
Your mum is nuts,your baby is a normal baby,exploring.If he sat nice and quietly all day then you worry.

As you can probably tell obedience was a huge thing in how I grew up, I heard ‘ thou shalt honour and obey thy parents’ everyday.

god the shit you realise when you have your own kids eh?

Obey 🤔 that's quite an unusual word to use

Crikey, I thought you were talking about a dog! Not a child.

Oh god no mine's 13 months and I don't think he has any concept of what I'm saying at all, he laughs if I say it in a funny voice, and he seems to think my strict voice is a just another funny voice lol

😂 I don’t have a one year old, but that’s really not going to happen.

Haha I wish 😭😭😭

Oh dear, sounds like they wanted you to give birth to a robot! I can imagine your upbringing wasn't a bed of roses :-(

My 3 year old barely does also 🙈

Oh lord no. 16m. Knows what I'm asking him to do/not do most of the time, ignores me anyway. I don't think he has the capacity to just stop whatever it is immediately. It takes distraction/encouragement or physical intervention. How would you even go about "training"?

Clearly she has memory issues!
She's delusional.
Or did she go around covered in chocolate when you were one? That's the only way I can think you'd guarantee any sort of toddler attention...

I bet your dm didn’t listen and obey at 1.
Have you got a grandparent you can ask?

absolutleu not. How do you even know what they’re understanding at that age?

My DD is 16 months and if I tell her no, she looks at me and carries on. I then have to physically move her which creates a tantrum.
But, no, she doesn't obey. I'd love it if she did.
She'll come and give me things if I ask her to but if she's decided she's doing something then it doesn't matter what we say, she'll be doing it (or trying to atleast).
We've had to get her a harness because she will run off in shops and things so it's much safe for her to walk with a harness on

yeah it wasn’t, spent a lot of time as an adult riddled with anxiety, learning about how I was raised, especially when I have children of my own has been eye opening

Sadly not they are long dead, but when they were alive the sun shone out of dm’s arse

Exactly what I said back to her, we’re talking about a child not a dog, the way she’s talking it sounds like what they do to war prisoners to turn them, you know crushing their spirit to gain obedience

1 year old are not capable of consistently listening and obeying. Their brains and understanding are not developed enough.

Continually expecting a child to do things beyond their developmental capability can constitute abuse.

the idea of a 1-yr old 'obeying' makes me very sad.

I hope you manage to shake off those ideas and find a nicer way to parent. Must have been tough.