Final straw

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I snapped at my kids yesterday.

I have a lot on my plate and can usually manage (I work full time, have 4 year old twins and study for a professional qualification as part of my role) but Christmas has tipped me over the edge.

I literally can't do it this year.

I have done zero prep but neither as my husband who doesn't have a care in the world.

I stayed home with the kids until they went to school and it was really tough. Going to the office is a break. Since September, we have been so busy and do not want to see anyone over the Christmas period. I just want a break with my family.

My kids were awful yesterday. Tired, overexcited already and sick. I lost it with them over a kit kat. I'm so done with Christmas.

Have we forgotten that half the UK can't afford to put their heating on? It's disgusting.

Poor you OP. Far too much on your plate. Time for a serious talk with DH dividing up the jobs to get the basics done for Christmas. Don't worry about losing your rag, these things happen.

Just wanted to say I am feeling just the same with a 4yr old & 2 yr old, also had a disappointing day yesterday, no idea how I will fit in Christmas prep. I work but am not also studying & I have no idea how you are doing that as well! Thats amazing.
For us, although I was already working the change from nursery to school with just 1 child has been huge. My dd is very tired and difficult at this time of the term (also always ill) Am I right that yours have started school and you have re-started work and study since September? That is a great deal of change to have gone through, you must be exhausted. I would strip Christmas right back and focus on anything that feels restful or re-energising. And yes DH should do his share. You can always add things back next christmas if you find you want to.

They wouldn't stop winging and crying and I screamed at them to be quiet. It was wrong of me to do so. 💔😔

Yes , kids started school in september and I have started a new career and full time job.

I have twins. I remember this age, they are shattered, you are shattered, what is your DH doing? I would regroup with your DH, tell him you need a break, work out what Christmas stuff esch of you are doing and what can be dropped. I also learned to anticipate arguments between the twins and named everything. They are now teenagers and DMIL bought them the same advent calendar so I wrote their names on the back. You can't stop the bickering but you can cut down opportunities.
Take dome pressure of yourself. It doesn't have to be perfect, your kids want a happy mum not stuff or experiences.

Thats such a lot of progress this year for your family. If you’re usually coping, that’s great, don't let that be derailed by Christmas (easier said than done maybe!).
When I feel disappointed with my parenting its usually because there is just too much going on. Can you have a simple and restful day today and maybe ask dh to sit down this evening and work out a plan for a simple christmas? Or tag team with dh so that you both get a few hours to do something for yourself? I hope it is a better day for you. Am hoping that for myself as well!

You're only human and they won't remember you snapping at them if you don't make a habit of it. Kids are whiney little nuisances sometimes, it is as if thwy have been specifically designed to get on our nerves and turn us into the worat version of ourselves.

We all make far too much preasure for ourselves at Christmas. It can be very simple. If you don't have time to prep then just do less of everything! For sure the kids won't know and if anyone judges you then that's their problem not yours.

Do something fun with them today. My kids and their friends loved Christmas crafts at this age. One of their best was to cut food out of some of the supermarket food-order catalogs and glue them on paper plates (or large circles of white paper if i had no paper plates) then have a Teddy Bear Christmas Dinner Picnic on the lounge floor. Kept them quiet for hours.

Thanks.

Need a simple christmas.

I'd wrap them up warm this afternoon and take them for a walk in the woods, then home for fireside tea and an early night.

End of term isn't far.

It will get easier. The difference between my youngest heading into Christmas in y1 and last year in reception is poles apart, he’sa genuine delight now but last year drove me potty, you’rea long way through the most needy phase.

Why isn't you OH stressing? Does he help you ....time to talk it out maybe.
We all loose it sometimes, and twins are hard work give yourself a break share the chores hand over some Christmas jobs and if it's all not done who cares.