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Baby hates leaving the house

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MandaLynn · 01/12/2022 18:15

DD2 is 10weeks and since she was about 2 weeks old she has hated leaving the house. Pram, car seat, carrier. She cries in all of them. If I put her in while asleep we might get a little bit of a break, but she inevitably wakes up and then screams. She's okay once I pick her up and hold her. At home she rarely cries.

I want to just not leave the house, but it's not really an option with the school run for DS.

Any insight into why she might hate all forms of transport? Or do I just have to deal with the crying till she grows out of it - or at least big enough for toys that might distract her?

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Woadicea · 01/12/2022 19:12

Went through something similar when my DD was a baby and I wondered whether it might be something to do with her tummy being squashed and it making her feel uncomfortable. With the pram, we always tried to make it not too vertical, though that wasn't always possible with the car seat.

Abridget7 · 01/12/2022 19:27

Some babies just hate this stuff. She's still in 4th trimester. They also go through big developmental leaps in terms of what they can see and hear. It could all be terrifying for her. How's she in a sling?

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MandaLynn · 01/12/2022 19:43

Fussy in the sling @Abridget7 - though vaguely less than the others

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FusionChefGeoff · 01/12/2022 19:58

Have you tried cranial osteopathy? Not something I've personally had experience of but I know people who had similar issues and it worked for their baby

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MandaLynn · 01/12/2022 20:16

FusionChefGeoff · 01/12/2022 19:58

Have you tried cranial osteopathy? Not something I've personally had experience of but I know people who had similar issues and it worked for their baby

I've wondered about that - maybe I need to look into it more.

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user2391 · 01/12/2022 20:19

Not sure if your pram setup but would she be happier in the seat part where she is sat up a little more than the flat baisenette?

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MandaLynn · 01/12/2022 20:20

She's fine in her Moses basket & next to me - which arguably are similar to the pram carrycot.

Which makes me think it's either motion related or overstimulation outside?

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Gh12345 · 01/12/2022 20:20

My daughter was the exact same, get a car seat mirror so she can see you

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MandaLynn · 01/12/2022 20:36

Gh12345 · 01/12/2022 20:20

My daughter was the exact same, get a car seat mirror so she can see you

Have one. Doesn't make a difference

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MandaLynn · 02/12/2022 10:17

Bumping for any wisdom from the morning/daytime Mumsneters

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Merrow · 02/12/2022 10:21

Have you been to a sling library? You might be able to find a sling that better mimics whatever she likes about being picked up and held! Or with the winter are you doing the sling over clothes? Maybe closer to your body then both wrapped up might help?

ProtectorExtraordinaryOfTheCantonsOfNim · 02/12/2022 10:36

Which sling(s) have you tried?

MINTYTULIP · 02/12/2022 12:36

This was DD, I became terrified to leave the house because she NEVER fell asleep in the pram and I wondered what I was doing wrong because I seemed to see other mums sitting in coffee shops and browsing shops with their silent prams and feel burning rage and jealousy.

It was very much 4th trimester related I think, she justw anted to be cuddled up with me with familiar sounds and smells. As she got older we moved her to the sit up pram much earlier than planned (around 3 months) and it started to get easier as she became more curious about wanting to sit on my lap and look around where we were.

She will change - promise - and get more tolerant to being out and about. Youw ill also harden up a bit about worrying what happens if baby cries in the middle of Tesco and not care about other people.

BringbackSpringsteen · 02/12/2022 12:40

Do you ever use the sling around the house, how is she with that?

Might help narrow down the issue

Merryclaire · 02/12/2022 12:55

Solidarity. My baby hates being transported too. I tend to start with the pram then move to carrier when she kicks off, then when she isn’t happy in there tend to give up and head home. Then she cries in the car seat. Fun…

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MandaLynn · 02/12/2022 13:05

@Merryclaire @MINTYTULIP Yup, exactly how I'm feeling.

@ProtectorExtraordinaryOfTheCantonsOfNim @Merrow I've been to the sling library and got the Tula Free to Grow carrier. She's vaguely okay in it until she's tired and then cries until I get her out and rock her

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MINTYTULIP · 02/12/2022 13:28

Big hugs - I felt so suffocated and like my world had become very small.

Keep at it, set yourself little realistic goals e.g going to pop to the local shop for milk and back again.

DD is now 2.5 and now I cant get her OUT the bloody pram half the time.

HoHoHowMuch · 02/12/2022 13:37

Ds2 hated the upright sling even though he was fine being upright. He was ok in one of the one shoulder ring slings though. Lying down was acceptable apparently. Car was hated and pram tolerated briefly. It does change hang in there.

Needmorelego · 02/12/2022 13:40

Is she too cold outside?. Or too hot? Could you be under or over bundling her up?

Endlesslaundry123 · 02/12/2022 14:21

My son was the same and it was so hard, stressful and frustrating. He thankfully started to get better slowly around 12 weeks and I was able to start taking him on short walks and car journeys at that point without instant screaming. Wrt did a lot of things to try and help him get used to the pram/car seat like using white noise in the pram, pushing back and forth in the pram in a way he liked to get him to sleep, making funny noises and faces to entertain him, toys in the pram and car seat. But honestly the best thing was time and taking it slowly and not forcing baby into it. Going for a 10 minute walk outside every few days. Going in the car seat once a week for a short 10 minute ride etc.

My son is now 5 months old and the anxiety and terror I used to feel at taking him out is nearly gone. Most of the time now when he fusses in his buggy I pull down the cover, put some white noise on and push him back and forth for a few minutes and he just falls right asleep. It gets better!!

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