I’m being ridiculous right?

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Dc is 3 and a bit and I’ve decided to move their nursery in the new year but I’m feeling so guilty about it because it’s their normal, they have friends there and there’s one super nice carer that dc is quite bonded too.

reasons for moving, cost, number 1. How nursery does 30 free hrs means it’s ‘only’ £80 off a 3 day week, which would be £160 normally. Full week £195 (prior to TF childcare) the cost is due to the fact they charge £17 a day for food. The nursery have a high staff turn over of late and the new staff just don’t seem as good, and she’d probably be going to a nursery school from September anyway, so what’s 8 months earlier. The new nursery by contrast is larger, better facilities (they have a kitchen in preschool room where they cook and bake with the kids), it’s on the same site as the nursery school and primary school (a lot of children from our neighbourhood go to the school) so it’s fairly likely she’ll get in, it has the same ofsted rating and it’s cheaper with how they do the funding, 3 full days is £22 and 4 days with wrap around is £29. We have 2 dcs in nursery so every little helps and the saving is about £1500 over a year.

i know these are logical reason and she’d be moving anyway and not necessarily with her friends and no one stays in nursery forever but my little one is so sensitive, I think it will be a big shock for her, she has one best friend and she does really love that one carer.

mnetters I’m being ridiculous arent i? No need to feel guilty right?

So will they be in a nursery for 8 months and then move again?

Have you considered sending in a packed lunch rather than paying for food?

her original nursery won’t let you take your own food in, ive asked was a firm no due to allergies

technically yes, but it’s the same site, where as part of the pre school class they’d already spend 50% of their (early years) nursery time in the nursery school setting, if that makes sense

Many many decisions as a parent come with guilt don’t they?

It’s so hard to do but if they’re the right reasons then yes, they’re the right reasons. She’ll be fine, she’ll make new friends and you have no idea how long that one carer will be there for - imagine you kept her place, missed a new place then that carer announced she was leaving.

Think of all the things you can do with the saved money. She’ll be fine. Good luck.

They'll be fine. Let go of the mum guilt.

Since they are sensitive I would talk to your child about the change in nursery a few weeks before it happens so they can mentally prepare for it. Just little light chats and maybe driving passed the new nursery a couple of times before their settling in days.

I'm doing the exact same thing, my DS has been at his current private nursery since 15 months. Alot of different reasons for wanting to move. However made the decision to send him starting Jan 2023 to the preschool within the primary he will (hopefully) attend September.

I feel immense guilt that he moved into his new room and now will change again in jan.

My thinking is all being well he will move, and then stay until year 6.

Every decision I make I feel guilty, but I'm doing it all for the right reasons.

Pretty similar then! Dd will get her 30 free hrs in jan and the amount the private nursery charge with 0 wiggle room, esp when it sort of goes against the funding rules or whathaveyou doesn’t sit right

Sounds like a very sensible decision.

When they are little, they really play with whoever is with them.
Honestly, she will be fine.

I moved my DDs nursery at 2.5yo, partly due to cost and turnover etc of the original nursery and partly because we moved house and the journey just wasn't working anymore. My DD was Soooo attached to one particular keyworker from when she first went as a baby, but had no issues moving at all, settled straight in.

She then got really attached to her new keyworker in the new nursery, to the point that she talked about her constantly and even cried out for her in her sleep the odd time. Then she moved up to the bigger room when she turned 3, and although she still sees her around the nursery, it was like someone flicked a switch, within the space of a week she was pretty much forgotten!

So my point is, your DD will likely be absolutely fine!

She'll be absolutely fine. I moved my 3 year old DCs from a nursery they loved last month to a closer one and they have settled in brilliantly and love the new place.

They'll be fine. I think there is good evidence that they are very flexible/adaptable up to about age 8 and moves like this don't really impact them. They cause the parents more worry than the child! After age 8 ish it's important to keep things more constant if possible. Go with whatever you think is best.

£17 per day to feed a 3yr old??
How do they justify that?

‘It covers all meals snacks and milk’ except we provide our own milk the menu is like
shreddies for breakfast
toast and milk for snack
hot meal for lunch (roast, curry, shepherds pie etc)
fruit biscuit and milk for afternoon snack
light meal like sandwiches or beans on toast for tea
then there’s an evening snack with my dc doesn’t have as it spoils her appetite for dinner and it’s like raisins or ricecakes

so it’s not even £5 worth of food

It definitely sounds like you’re making the right decision. Hope the change over goes smoothly.

Can you arrange some weekend play dates with her friend after she leaves?

Luckily her friends mum is absolutely lovely and we’ve been meeting regularly as is, and the mum will be moving her Dc too but from the new academic year