Please help - lost as what the next steps are
Ever since baby has been born ( mil first grandchild) she's been horrid.
Hasn't supported us, selfish, everything is aimed around the baby. Has completely ignored our needs
What we've done
*Tried to ignore it - thinking it was just a phase but it wasn't
*so DH spoke to her and told her exactly how we feel. She cried/broke down and it didn't go in so we drew a line for our sanity
When she comes over to visit baby I do not enjoy her company
She has told me she is now on anti depressants, can't sleep and 'misses' the baby
It annoys me more than I can have empathy for her and I hate how it makes me feel as usually I'm a compassionate person but my mum family and friends haven't put this on me
Ive had trouble recovering from a traumatic birth, hard recovery, unsettled baby and im tired. She used to turn up and attend my midwife appointments so we had to say please text first. She didn't like this and doesn't feel she has to as she's family. She does now but I don't think she's happy about it
Lately she's now crying saying she can't believe we aren't coming Xmas. We don't want to. We want a Xmas in our home without having to pack and drive and we have an older child. She doesn't have any respect or boundaries in my opinion
As much as family is important she is making me miserable
I never thought she would be like this
Having our baby has changed her
We used to be close and I enjoyed her company
Honestly don't know what to do....it's getting me down
Any suggestions welcome
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