Is co sleeping habit easy to break?

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me and DH have our 11mo son who used to just get in our bed at 5/6am until 7-8am
then it changed to getting in between 2 and 4am

then when he was starting nursery and poorly he’s just got in with us from when we go to bed! So he’s in our bed pretty much all night nearly

DH in a nice way said we should try to get him to stay overnight in his cot as he’s got his lovely room we done for him and it’s good for him to know that’s his bed this is ours etc (I did explain he’s a bit young for this and we had a chuckle. But I get it for when he’s an older boy though)

I personally love having him next to me. It’s me carrying on this habit I haven’t even attempted to go to bed and leave him in his cot for about 2 months now!

My main question is said if we did do this, or even went back to 2-4am getting in our bed.
would it be hard to break the c o sleeping habit? When he gets his own proper bed so I believe that is 18months onwards? Correct me if I’m wrong

Ive heard mixed things

Where does he nap in the day? I would start with trying to get him to nap in his cot during the day. With nighttime, if he wakes in the night then go into his room but try and resettle him by keeping him in his cot, shushing, patting, stroking etc. As he’s used to cosleeping with you this might mean a temporary mattress on the floor so that you’re lying beside him but he’s staying in his own sleep space and making it a gradual process.

Most children will always choose being with you so what you do about cosleeping is more about what you want than them. We coslept with both kids. I could not deal with constantly getting up and resettling them or sleeping on mattresses in their nursery!!! No way! Ours gradually transitioned to sleeping in their own beds without any fuss and would only come into our room now if they are poorly.

I breastfed to sleep and coslept with my first for till around 19 months. Then transitioned to a cot next to the bed and then moved it into another room a few weeks later. It was all really gentle. We'd tried previously and failed, but we were motivated by DC2 on the way. DC2 was probably closer to 2 and again little bed by our bed that was then moved into the kids room. Both times it was a gentle positive experience. One's a good sleeper, ones struggles to drop off, (but one takes after me and one takes after OH in that respect.)

Things that made a difference to us was getting a new bed both times and at an age where they really appreciated it as something for them. Neither would move into already available beds in the house 🤪 but the eldest needed a cot with bars still so got them one, youngest was too much of a climber to move into that and got a little bed. New bed, new bedding, "helping" assemble etc.

We also got really tight on the bed time routine in the lead up, including we had a v-tech thing that played a song that ended up being an effective sleep cue

I mean, my partner said something similar to me once and I said to him "well I will if you're the one getting up and soothing her back to sleep"

He soon stopped suggesting it.

You could give it a try and see how to you get on, it could work well. For us personally, I couldn't be bothered with having to get up and walk around the bed, through the hall and into the her bedroom.

You could continue to start the night off in the cot and then just bring him in with you after the first wake up.

Young children typically choose to sleep beside parents given the choice. Asides from being natural behaviour, I don't view it as a habit to break but a choice you make. When your child is ready to sleep alone they will, so any time you push that prematurely could be a difficult process.

My DS went straight from our bed to a standard single bed, so there was room for us to come and snuggle up if he missed us. I was pleased to not have to buy a child sized bed and I love how convenient it is to hop in with him if he does need it.

We started off the transition by bedsharing until he was asleep and then sneaking out and gradually it turned into a cuddle and then leaving him to sleep. (We explained in advance that we were doing this so that he didn't freak out at waking alone)
It took a good while to 'break' the habit, but we were happy with it, never had particularly difficult bedtimes or had to 'cry it out' etc.

He was in our bed until he was 2, and now at 3 he goes to bed happily, wakes up and either goes back to bed if his growclock says it's still night, or wanders through to us if it's morning. He possibly could have been out of our bed sooner, but the house we were in made it awkward - we just transitioned to big boy bed when we moved house and he was fine with it.

Dd1 slept with me from 0-11. Dd2 slept with me from 6-present (10 years old). I don't mind the sleeping it's the chatting and messing about before.

I breastfed and co slept for 2 years, my son is now 3 and in his own bed without any issues really, settles on his own etc. I'm now pregnant again and will be doing the same this time round aswell.

We did sleep training with a professional, not because of co sleeping but because of the amount he would wake up even when he was in my bed, co sleeping didn't make alot of difference hes never been a great sleeper untill the last 6 months or so! When we did stop co sleeping I used to put him in his bed and sit beside him on the floor untill he was asleep, every night I'd move and sit closer to the door, after a week of doing that every night I started crawling (literally) out the door whilst he was still awake, and then just put him in bed and walked straight out the week after. I'd say it was difficult for a week if I'm honest, but that's also because I found it very difficult to sleep without him so I wasn't particularly settled or pleased with the idea myself but the time was right for us.