My husband has always had a temper, we have been married for 14 years. We have 2 daughters ages 5 and 9. He often loses his temper when they cry or shout and I've tried my best to mitigate this over the years. I've done every night feed, I've never left him alone overnight with the children as I've always been scared deep down he might not be able to control himself. Last week my 5 year old refused to go to school. She was shouting and I was talking her round. He stormed in and starts yelling at her. He then gets down into her face and starts 'whispering' threats and swearing, with his face contorted with sheer rage. He has done this before, and I've told him how much it disturbs me and how awful it is to do that to a child. He then picks her up, and at this point she is shouting 'Daddy, put me down, you are hurting me, Daddy'. I'm telling him to stop but it's clear he can't hear me, as he is not in control. He puts her outside and shuts the door. She is sobbing. By the time I get her in, and hug her, I take off her coat and she has red marks in her arm. As I left for school, I told him this was abuse, and I want him gone. He has agreed to get counselling but I don't know what I should do next.