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3yo getting very stressed about having a night time accident

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Mamabear04 · 27/11/2022 19:22

DD has just turned 3yo. We potty trained at 22mo and she has been out of night time nappies for around 2 months and been waking to go to the toilet/dry nappies for around 3 months more than that. We've had no problems and she's been doing really well. Last month I put her to bed and forgot to switch the sound on the monitor and got distracted making dinner or something and I didn't hear her screaming to go for a pee and she had an accident. I had taken her to the toilet before I put her to bed and she hadn't gone. Since then she has been waking more and more in the night to pee and now its got to the point where she is having tantrums during the night about being taken to the toilet every 2 hours. I have never made a big deal out of accidents and neither had DH but he did mention he has been saying "you don't want to have an accident" to get her to go to the toilet when he puts her down for bed. He has stopped this after he realised it might be causing a problem. I don't think that's entirely what's causing the problem. She is just getting so upset about it. I don't want to put a nappy back on her because that feels like a step back and she always wake up to pee.
She never admits to if she is not feeling well/has a pain but tonight she said it hurts to pee. I had been worried she might have a uti as she peed 5 times in one night and had her pee tested at the drs. they said it didn't show anything up. Could it be something else? She does have an ear infection and is on the last day of her antibiotics.

Any ideas as to what to do?

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Hellno44 · 27/11/2022 19:30

Do you have a potty? I'd put a potty on an inco pad in her room so she can go whenevershe needs to. Alternatively remove whatever baby gate you have so she can go alone. I leave the bathroom light on and my daughter (4) will take herself and has been for around 9 months. She'll wake me and ask for help if she does a pooh. I have a baby gate on my stairs because I have a younger child.

Hellno44 · 27/11/2022 19:32

No harm checking for UTI again. Also monitor her fluid intake. Mske sure she is drinking enough and not restricting because she is worried about accidents.

Endlesslaundry123 · 27/11/2022 21:20

Assuming it's not a UTI, it could be a phase as she seems upset about the bed accident. My daughter had a bad dream one night that her doll fell down and turned into a "teddy bear that wouldn't stop crying" and she proceeded to banish all toys from her bed for 4 months (and counting..... but she's slowly allowing them back in one by one haha). Sometimes kids just need time to process things and get over the bad feelings. Talk to her about the accident ("remember that night you had an accident because mummy didn't hear you? How did you feel? I can understand that you would be upset." Etc.) and don't try to brush it under the rug -- the more she feels understood and seen in her feelings about the situation, the more quickly she'll get over it. It could take awhile but hopefully she'll come out of it soon enough.

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NuffSaidSam · 27/11/2022 21:23

Put a potty in her room (and a night light if necessary) so she can go when she needs to. Or make it safe for her to go to the toilet by herself (stairgate, landing light etc). Give her back the power.

Make sure she's drinking plenty and go back to the GP if it's still hurting to wee in a week (or she gets any other symptoms).

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 27/11/2022 21:28

Why was she calling for you? Can she not get to toilet herself? Either make toilet accessable or potty in her room. At 3yo she shouldn't have to wait for you to go for a wee

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