Don’t want to be here anymore

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I’m close to giving up, an ex who’s not abiding by a child arrangements court order and leaving our daughter at school refusing to now pick her up, leaving me with little notice having major chunks of his contact time, he took me to court and now not abiding the order he wanted, I will be sacked soon with letting my employer down

tried to write to his solicitor, their letters back are horrid and bullying

i don’t think I can do this any longer

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Can you get a solicitor to take it up on your behalf? You shouldn't need to deal with his solicitor direct.

Is he completely refusing, I’m which case can you set up childcare ie childminder. Or he is just being unreliable which you can’t plan for?

I can’t afford a solicitor so having to directly write to his, the court order is specific with a time and he’s just now trying to change the arrangements without me consenting or agreeing and I’ve informed the courts as apparently he needs to apply for a variation, the school told me today if neither of us had picked her up social services would have been rang. I would never leave my daughter at school but im breaching the order as it’s not been agreed to a variation and with work is the whole reason the court ordered the specific time and I offered him so much flexibility with the rest of the order, I can’t plan life or work if I keep getting a “my client gives notice he’s not doing this or that” even tho it’s court ordered

if he doesn’t want the time why not just say and we can have another arrangement in place, at the moment im at the mercy of the other parent just controlling my life

It’s ordered we set up a parenting app which he refuses to do and just gets his solicitor to write a letter

I’ve got no more fight left it’s making me mentally so poorly

I wrote a letter saying I wish to inform your client I will be out of the country on his contact time in January but available on Mobile then got a a letter back saying he was unavailable for the whole of his contact time in January and I will be solely responsible during January on his contact time

You’re not in breach, OP. You are required to make dd available for contact, there are no repercussions for you (legally) if he doesn’t turn up.

I’m so sorry you’re going through such a shitty time. You’re not eligible for legal aid? Can you afford a one off advice session with a solicitor? All you could do is take it back to court but that is unfortunately expensive.

please don’t give up, your dd needs you.

It might be worth contacting Gingerbread to see if they offer any legal advice / advocacy. But if your mental health is declining please go to your GP. You sound in need of help and support, quite naturally.

Thankyou so much for your replies, I will see if I can get legal aid and contact gingerbread. I am trying to remain strong for the girls I’m just losing myself in the process 😓

Please don't give up you sound like and making mother and that your kids need you. They need their mummy, there's no one more important. As PP have said try your GP and legal aid x