How much will my baby be impacted by an absent father? How can I make it better?

[Fryoooo]

He left when dc was a few weeks. He’s highly successful, well known in his field and if dc was ever to look him up in future there would be loads of information about him online, his achievements etc. I worry this will really affect dc as it’s an insight into his dad where his dad simultaneously couldn’t be bothered with him. His dad has no other kids and unlikely to as he’s almost 50 now. No idea if he has a new relationship. I really wanted them to know each other but having reached out a few times the last year, it’s obvious he couldn’t care less as he’s been totally silent. I can’t believe anyone can do that to their child, it tears me apart. How can I make this better?

I have been a single parent for almost 6 years. Dd did have regular contact until an issue arose with her dad and it had to stop.

She’s a bright, funny little girl. We have a really open relationship when it comes to feelings and talking about things that upset her. I talk to her about her dad whenever she wants to so it’s never a taboo subject.

Children are very adaptable, and you can (and will) be both parents. I think sometimes it’s easier raising them alone from the outset so that becomes your normal. Be open and honest in an age appropriate manner when the time comes and explain.

Put the father out of your mind now, he doesn’t care as sad as that is. Concentrate on your family. It will be ok!

I think having no father is better than a shitty one who flits in and out constantly letting the child down.