How long would you persevere with nursery?

[Darklava09]

My DS2 is 15 months and attends nursery 2 full days a week and is with grandmother 2 days.

he is so clingy on the days I go to work understandably. He has been at nursery since September and doesn’t seem to be settling. He cries when we get out the car onto the car park for nursery, clings on and screams.
when he’s there he’s constantly being held as they said he cries every time they put him down. When I collect he’s usually being held and when I see photos on tapestry he’s on someone’s lap as they have said he just doesn’t like to be independent there.

I think he’s only had 2 good day where they said he tottles off by himself. I don’t know how long to persevere with it. He goes to the nursery attached to my work so it’s super convenient and right next door so I can get him straight away but I don’t know if it’s the right fit. I originally wanted a childminder but went with nursery out of convenience.

he had a good key worker but she got moved due to an injury so I don’t think he has someone consistent which isn’t helping. How long shall I wait? The thought of sending him this week makes me really worried and anxious.

I’d keep going another while! I mean from what you say the staff are looking after his needs well if someone is always holding him or he is sitting on someone’s lap - he obviously feels secure with the staff.

my daughter is 18 months and been there since 10 months she was very clingy of the staff for ages - now she is a bit more independent but still I see in photos and videos she is often cuddled up on a staff members lap! And I feel happy knowing she obviously likes the person she is with and feels safe sitting with them.

@Heyahun Yeah I can’t fault them in terms of looking after him. They always make sure he’s happy. I think because I work for the company he may get extra special treatment which is fine by me but I would love
to see him being settled like the others… going off exploring areas, playing etc as opposed to just being held all day.

when he’s there he eats well, naps well so all of those things are taken care of with him. It’s just so hard. My eldest loved nursery and didn’t care at all just walked off through the door.

As an early years practitioner some children settle straight away others can take a few months, especially if they are only attending a couple of days a week.

I had a child who held my hand for the full day and was glued to my side, he would cry when I went my lunch and would cry for the full hour, he only attended 2 days a week and it did take a good 3 months to settle. He was soon confidently playing with other children but it did take a while to settle.

all children are different and it sounds like they are working with your child to help settle them into the nursery routine.