Parents of girls - help please!

[pigsinmud]

Dd1 is just 4. She goes to preschool for a few mornings a week which she loves. However, lately she has come home saying "Child A said she won't be my friend if I don't give her/do something". I never experienced this with my boys - is it a girl thing and how long does it go on for?!

She doesn't seem that bothered by it and has started employing the tactic with me .... doesn't get her very far! She had a friend to play today and the little girl was constantly whispering it to dd1. I tried to explain it wasn't very nice, but I think it fell on deaf ears. She wanted dd1 to give her dd's new little upsydaisy otherwise she wouldn't be her friend .... couldn't believe it as dd1 was actually considering it!

Boys seemed much more straightforward!!

my girl isn't like that

but then she's a boy-girl

Girls are feckin horrible................tell her to play footie with the lads.

welcome to the world of bitchidom - get used to hugs and tears at bedtime, we don't get it with dd2 as she seems to have landed with a decent crowd or maybe she just takes no notice - she is fairly 'adult' anyway. DD1 though, is 14 and cried on my shoulder last week because she doesn't want to go skiing because she has no one to share a room with, they've all fallen out again

i think it is more common with girls, but boys can be like that also. It depends on the child. I can't bear that and won't tolerate it! I would put her in the shed...

same as that with dd2 twig , boy-girls are far preferable

I considered my dd1 to be a boy-girl as she has two older brothers. Said friend has 3 older sisters, so that could be the problem!

goes on till they leave home, starts about 4.

it probably is a girl thing. i have 2 girls and have experienced this sort of thing occasionally, especially the whispering.

I do think girls are far more complicated emotionally...but i love 'em!

I have two DDs (7 & 3) and if I haven't be certified insane by the time they grow up, I am going to get a job as a UN peace keeper. Girls are hard work, a political nightmare.

Last week they were playing shops and friend said to dd1 in a matter of fact tone "Why don't you piss right off?" That was definately her 12 year old sister talking ... dd1 just said "ok" and carried on!

of course DD isn't 4 till May .. so I'm now quivering at needmorecoffee's comment

Ok - I think I get the picture. I don't have much sympathy for the bitchy bust ups, but perhaps I'll have to find some.

dont know if it is a girl thing or age..little boy over the road was doing it a lot to ds last summer but he was a bit older/wiser than ds.

Twiglett - dd1 was 4 about 10 days ago and has become a right madam since then.

Don't remember this one, but would simply have told dd to ignore it. I've heard a certain amount of bitchiness from ds's male friends, so these things may not be totally clearcut.

I'm bewildered and gobsmacked by it all as well.

DS is 6: he is entirely straightforward. He had a good close group of 3 other boys in his class. They play Star Wars most break times. He comes home quite muddy. He is like a happy puppy.

DD is 4. She spends a lot of time involved in psychological warfare with various friends. Her friendship groups are quite fluid. Every day I get a litany of "who said they wouldn't be my friend". She say this to her brother. She says her brother said it to her.

AAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!

I've got two older DSs and DD who's 4. I never had all the BF stuff from the DSs - they have more of an extended group of friends. DD comes home from nursery with a different BF every day it seems, and she has a myriad of reasons why X is now her BF and Y isn't (unlike DSs DD is very self confident and assertive, she does what she wants regardless of everyone else, so tends to be the leader rather than the follower - didn't get that from either me or DH!) She's started saying I'm not her friend, or 'I don't like you' () if she doesn't get her way at home (we stamp on that pretty hard I must say). I hate putting it down to being a girl or the youngest, but the evidence seems to support it......

Serenity - me too. I have always resisted any suggestion that boys are like this and girls are like that and I hope I haven't implied it is just a girl thing, but my dss were never like this.

DD1 6yo was (isn't so much now) like that with the best friend thing. However dd2 4 in march hasn't really shown any signs as yet. The only thinhs that concerns her is that ALL her friends are her best friends and more and more are coming to her birthday party...

It's a personality thing too.

Agree with Anchovy actually - DSs were/are like puppies, bound around full of energy, slobbery love for all.

DD - definite kitten, very cute when she wants but with claws of steel when you cross her. I love them all, but DD's definitely more mentally challenging

Snap, Serenity!

4 year old girls, in general, seem to be a piece of work. (Altho', unfortunately, I do know where DD gets her assertiveness from! )

Girls are rubbish! Well some are anyway! Are the ones with older brothers better?