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4yo DS change of behaviour after starting school

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cherryscone · 15/11/2022 21:05

Hello,

I'm after a little bit of advice really, my DS turned 4 at the start of August and started school in September.

Up until now it's usually been Thursday / Friday I'd notice has more of a tired tantrum behaviour so understood but since the October half term, every day has been a battle of tantrums, not using manners, crying when you say "no" or over very little issues, shouting a bit more, being frustrated easily with toys if they don't do something he wants (this then turns to being upset) and he's just a different child at times.

Other times he's a lovely little boy and so loving, but when he tantrums at times it's so challenging. Using the counting to 5 trick works but it becomes very exhausting when it can be constant. He has a speech delay so it seems a vicious cycle when he's frustrated and cannot explain what he wants or doesn't know how to.

Both me and my DP are very calm to situations and handle the situation well but it's very stressful at times too.

I think this is just more of a vent really, and to ask I this normal? 😭 he did the usual coming home from school and not wanting to answer questions about his day (we knew this would happen and didn't expect a full account of his day 😂) but he's been in nursery since he was 2 and we never had this.
Ever since the October half term I think it's just seemed to have got worse and I feel so embarrassed asking if any other school mums go through this..

Thank you!!

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LeafHunter · 15/11/2022 21:06

It’s entirely normal.

mushforbrain · 15/11/2022 21:18

I had this to some extent when my little boy started school last year and now in year one I’m afraid it has ramped up massively! It’s a shame as he was such a lovely, placid (but full of energy) boy and now he is still fun, hilarious and happy but my god, emotional and angry as well!
To be honest I just assumed it was totally normal, it didn’t take me by surprise as I know how tiring school will be for him and he will be managing his emotions all day so it all comes out when he gets home. Like I said it does make me a bit sad, but at the same time I am really enjoying seeing him spread his wings and coming home with his funny drawings and huge writing 😆
it sounds like you’re dealing with it well, I think all you can do is show him lots of calm love and affection, ensuring that you keep behavioural boundaries in place. He’ll get there.

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