Is this the norm for most mums?

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I have 2 autoimmune diseases. Recently got flu and it absolutely floored me. Now normally I struggle on and look after the 2 DC but I could barely stand on Saturday.
DP has football every Saturday and is gone most of the day. I asked if he could drop the DC to my mums so I could rest. He asked if I was really that bad and said he didn't have time to drop the children and got his mum to come to the house instead. Which I appreciate but the noise was incredible when my head was already pounding and youngest DC did not have a nap all day.
Yesterday DP woke me with lemsip and pills to take and told me to just "lay on the sofa all day with the 2 year old as it's no different than being in bed".
I had to repeat that I could barely stand as so dizzy and I was not able to look after DD.
DP tried to get hold of his mum again and she said she was also poorly and couldn't help out. He was then furious with me that I made him take ONE day off work to care for our child. Not me as he didn't ask if I needed anything or come up to room once all day. He told me the world can't stop just because I am ill. If he is ever poorly I would never get my mum round to look after him/kids and go off kicking a ball around.
Are men really this shitty or am I just feeling sorry for myself because I feel so ill 😢

Your husband is a complete twat. I'm so sorry.

He’s definitely being a twat here. I’m sorry he was so horrid when you were poorly, is he like that normally?

YANBU. Although are there no men that can do childcare here? It seems to be all the mums. You, your mum, his mum.
Where are the dads in all this?

No, your husband is a pathetic excuse for a father and partner. Why on earth does a full day of football come before spending time with his children, even when you’re not poorly?

What does your mum/mil think about being asked to step in because he’s too busy kicking a football around to look after you and his own children?

You deserve love and support, especially when you’re not feeling well, and your children deserve a dad who is present and engaged. Please don’t put up with his shitty behaviour.

No it’s not all men, you just have a shit husband. Mine would have stayed home on the Saturday and taken a day off work without being asked and I’d have been in bed all weekend and not had to worry about the kids at all.

He's being a total dick. Hope you feel better very soon.

No it's not all men, it's your husband, sorry to say. His attitude is vile. My DP would and has absolutely take the day off work if I'm too ill to look after children. He would never leave me on my own with them whilst ill on a weekend. He also doesn't prioritise his own hobby over the children.

When he says "the world can't stop" because you're ill, what he means is his word can't be at all impacted by your or the children's needs. So selfish.

No it's not all men. It's your husband.

For comparison, my DH took the day off work when I had mastitis. Can't remember the last time I was so ill. Could barely get out of bed never mind look after a baby. He looked after DS while I stayed in bed and only brought him to me for feeds which of course was necessary in this case.