Absent dad

[Mummyof422]

Hi there I’m looking for some advice really 1st time posting
so my DD is 4 years old
her dad sees her once every two weeks (ment too) his own choice , the grandma takes her on the Friday and dad is ment to take her on the Saturday but more often than not he isn’t actully taken her , basically he can’t be assed seeing her and she ends up staying with grandma again , I would rather she came back to me where she is wanted , if I say to grandma I want her back I know she would lie and say she went to her dads , he’s never made the effort since she has been born and I don’t expect him too anytime soon any thoughts what would be the best route to go ?

How does she get to grandma's, do you take her or what? You could say he has to pick her up?

Oh sorry I see DGM has her the night before. Is she wanted that night?

Grandma picks her up from nursery on Fridays and then he is ment to pick her up from there on the Saturday

Is she happy and wanted / cared for at grandma's?

Yeah grandma loves having her she also has her every Wednesdays for suppers

I would assume you're going to a single parent. Try to claim child support through official channels. Allow her to continue going to grandma's if she is loved and cared for there, and enjoys it, because it gives you a break as a single parent too.

was the pregnancy unexpected or were you together at the time?

Hiya I’m actully married and have 3 others kids to my husband my DD is a story for another day lol I just feel bad she is missing out on family time with us as we work during the week and I’m always more than generous when it comes to grandma for extra days and things , but I know not seeing her dad hurt hers he also has his own family she is such a sweet good girl I think it’s just being a mum I don’t understand who wouldn’t want to see there child especially when it’s ment to be twice a month 😔

hiya it was a one night stand with a ex we agreed to stay friends and just be there for DD

Not sure this is relevant in any way to the OP’s question.

OP, are you able to collect your child from Grandma’s on a Saturday?
If the dad wants to see the child they can collect from your house? Or maybe that’s not an option… ?

We stay 10 minutes walk away from each other me and grandma but I don’t think she would like that idea and would tell me he’s pick her up early , she is a wonderful grandma but she is all for her son at the same time and I think that’s why she takes my DD often because she knows he will not

Lovely that she’s caring and involved. However, she’s your child. And if you believe / know that her dad isn’t picking her up on the Saturday night, that’s entirely your choice to change that

Why don't you pick her up from Grans and tell her dad to pick her up from your house on the Saturday? Then you'll know for sure if he's taking her. I know at 4 it might be difficult but can you ask DC 'where did daddy take you' or 'did you have fun with daddy'