Leaving breastfed baby at night

[Firsttimemum226]

My baby has is 8 months (just)
He’s breastfed but takes a bottle. Also eating solids well.
Todays my sisters birthday. We planned a while ago to a spa in the afternoon, then dinner and drinks and hotel at night.
I’ve never not put my baby to bed because he is fed to sleep.
My partner has him a lot on his own during the day so I’m not worried about that. It’s just putting him to bed which I’m worried about.
I’ve tried to not feed him to sleep. He just screams. I’ve tried to let my partner do bedtime before. He just screams.
He wakes up a lot at night (around 5 times) and needs to be fed to go back to sleep.
So I already know tonight is not going to go well for him or my partner.
Am I being selfish by going, knowing that he will not cope well without me?

My LO was very similar but never had a bottle. She was older the first time I wasn't around to feed to sleep at bedtime, about 20 months I think, but she went to bed no bother! Very out of character! So I worried and worried for nothing and I think she just knew breastfeeding wasn't an option without mummy there. Hope you've had a good day out with your sister, your baby and DP will find their own way to manage 😊

Honestly, your baby might have a shit night and your husband might struggle. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't go. You absolutely should. It's not like your baby will be abandoned in a crack den, she'll be with a loving, caring, competent parent who is able to feed and comfort her. She won't be getting her first choice, but Option 2 is still full of love!

Go. Celebrate your sister. Turn your phone off. He can call the spa if the house catches fire. Otherwise, you're busy, and you'll see them both tomorrow. You deserve this.

Of course you should go, the baby won’t scream all night and will eventually sleep

Id use this as a good opportunity to break the sleep / feed association tbh and do some quick sleep training!

All mine were breast fed to sleep. If I was about they would scream their heads off going to bed for someone else. If I wasn't there they were absolutely fine (they properly played me!).

My only tip is be relaxed with the bedtime routine. Like if he doesn't settle in bed just let him up or be rocked in his pushchair etc.

Thanks everyone! I went and had the best time. Came home early because I was missing him lol but he was snuggled up in bed next to his daddy.

Sorry if I'm bei

Posted too soon

... Sorry of I'm being daft but, it you're okay with feeding to sleep, couldn't husband just feed to sleep with the bottle?

But I see all was well in the end regardless 😊