Am I being unreasonable? Would you be angry?

[Lizzie67384]

My ex hasn’t seen our son since he was 10 months old - radio silence. He did pay me maintenance but I queried why it hasn’t gone up in 4 years - he’s very immature and had blocked me, so the only way to communicate with him was through his father (who’s a bit of a bully).
My in-laws said they wouldn’t continue to see our son if I pursued payment through the CMS - I cancelled the first application but found out through LinkedIn that my ex has quite high paying job - so did the application again and he had been paying me £300 less per / month!
During covid I had to go down to part time hours (as no child care) and take out a loan - I’m absolutely furious that my ex hasn’t been paying the correct amount, bought a house for £425,000 during covid with his new gf AND bought a pet cat the week before our son’s 3rd birthday (our son is allergic to cats) and named it Hugo, which is the name of my nephew!!!
Ex is still refusing to see our son and the in-laws won’t now either as I did the CMS application! He’s never sent a birthday card or present since leaving when our DS was 10 months.

what do I do?

What do you want from the situation? i think you should 100% pursue the £ if you are entitled to it. He’s never going to change, I would count your lucky stars that he is keeping himself away from the kid - he sounds like a terrible role model.

You thank goodness that you’re not still with him. You pursue the CMS claim, focus on being the best mum you can be and look to your friends and family for emotional support. Onwards and upwards. It will be tough but you can do it. 💐

They all sound awful! Your DS is better off without them in his life, but I would try to claim for every penny owed. If that has the advantageous side effect of meaning the in-laws no longer want to see him, then so be it.

This.

They don't want to know your dc. It's painful but true. Don't waste any more time or energy wondering why. Just get what your dc is entitled to and don't attempt to contact them again. They sound awful.

Thank you all for your kind & supportive comments. I feel I’ve been gaslighted a bit - they make out as if I’m being totally unreasonable etc. Thanks again xxx

Totally agree with the other posters Op. Pursue the money as your son is entitled to it & be the best mum you can, filling his life with people who love & cherish him.

You've both had a lucky escape.

Your ex in-laws are cunts. Hope that helps.

They're all fucking arse holes - that doesn't mean your ex gets to pay nothing.

Pursue the CMS claim and thank your lucky stars that they're not involved in either your or your DC's lives.

Hahaha it does!! 🙏🙏

@WeeOrcadian puts it perfectly.

Pursue the money. Get other significant people in your child's life (family members and friends from your side of the family). You are both better off without the father / his family in your life. They are horrible.

I’m overwhelmed with all the supportive comments! Thank you all very much

If someone posted about trying to maintain a relationship with people like these, everyone would tell them not to bother .
You've been really lucky that they've removed themselves. 👍👍
Get all the money you can!