Struggling to carry everyone's problems on my shoulders!!

[Heavyload3]

I love being a mum. But the one thing I find most difficult as my children get older is supporting them when they encounter problems. I feel like it's mostly the woman's job for this role and I am struggling at the moment.
My mum is in an unhappy marriage & uses me as a therapist & offloads all of her stress and unhappiness on to me.
My husband is currently depressed & off work sick. I am very worried about him.
My son has started high school this year and is struggling to adjust and hasn't made any friends. He's a very sensitive boy & let's things bother him & get him down. He also has adhd & has meltdowns about clothes, changes of routine etc.
My daughter has health problems that I worry about.
I feel like I have no more space left in my brain for myself or anything else. I'm constantly being asked to solve other people's problems!!
Any tips on how to manage this? I also feel things deeply so if my child is upset about a friendship issue for example I find it extremely hard to not get involved

You aren't alone. I was only saying to my son earlier, that there seems to be a point in life where the buck stops with you, and you are suddenly the one everyone depends on.
Not always fun being the main grown up!
I think when you feel this way, you can start overthinking everything because you want to keep control of all the problems (so start catastrophising a bit).
Try and let go a little. Think about what is fact. You are worried about people (rightly so by the sound of it) but sometimes maybe inventing situations and attributing feelings to them that aren't actually happening.
Also try and have a bit of fun. "Family, life is hard! Tomorrow night we are putting all the ingredients to make our own ice cream sundaes on the table and watching a funny movie/playing pictionary etc"
Make sure there is room somewhere for you. If the pot is empty, you can't give anymore away.

Same here. I fell like I spend all my time dealing with everyone else's problems, big and small, and never dealing with my own.