Struggling

[kaykayy]

With sleep for my 10mo

He just really isn’t sleeping well alone. Even when we get him in the bed he wakes. He’s had a few colds/viral infections since starting nursery so I get that

but even before nursery he woke frequently

We seen the HV today who basically gave me a telling off. Said he doesn’t need to be cuddles to sleep and that when he cries for me in the night I need to non verbally get him to sleep

the last week I’ve attempted him falling asleep on his own in the cot which went okay! But he is still waking and when I don’t talk he gets worked up sometimes when I sing it calms him too so I don’t know why I wouldn’t do that

but I don’t know any tips please? I haven’t had more than 4 hours sleep in months I’m so exhausted and every night just know I won’t be resting

Have you tried or would you consider cosleeping?

@40andfit we currently basically do! He goes in his cot 7pm then gets in witb us about 12pm

but he still does wake so I pick him up he goes back asleep then goes down but it’s a bit uncomfy for me now I’m really sore and I mean if I need to make the sacrifice so the majority of us sleep I will but I’d ideally like my own bed and his (for most the night. Not minding if he gets in about 4-6am)

I know it's not ideal, but could you put his cot/a travel cot in your room, next to your bed & hold his hand through the bars so he has contact with you but also so you can both sleep? We used to put a spare mattress on the floor when my 4 year old was little & I would sleep there with her but now she has her old cot bed in our room if she wants to be in with us. Downfall of course is she's very reluctant to go back in her room but it won't be forever & the important thing is everyone does get to sleep which is all you care about in the middle of the night!

Why is it uncomfortable? How are you laying? What is sore? I maybe able to offer advice.

Thank you I have considered this we are due to organise our bedroom it’s quite tight but hopefully there’d be enough space to try this

and basically he moves a lot in his sleep so I’m in the c position but I’m slowly being kicked onto the edge of the bed and then waking as I’m sometimes falling off

Can you put your mattress on the floor on top of slats or get a 3/4 double for his room and do the same?

Sleeping with a pillow between your thighs and one supporting your lower back helps and if possible swap sides during the night you are laying on.