Reaction to subsequent pregnancy/ies

[ChaCha]

I have two DC, aged 1 and 2. We announced our 3rd PG after scan today. Reactions were mixed and was quite surprised by some

What kind of reactions did you have when you announced another PG? Very interested in what the norm is. Ty.

How do you mean mixed?
Do you mean some didn't seem very pleased or happy for you?

close friends were happy for us, our very close friends but others had so many surcastic remarks and actually forgot to congratulate like it was just 'another pregnancy'....i just feel that with the third it's just well, not so exciting or hmm...i can't explain very well can i....Perhaps was expecting too much!

yes just because your been pregnant/had babies before dosent make it any less important or exciting for you.
some folk are just thoughtless

congratulations chacha
when are you due?

Second or more pgs are never as exciting to other people as first I think especially as there's nothing to see or really celebrate in the early stages. Hopefully as you start to show and once lo is here your friends will rally round and be as excited and joyful as you
Are your friends ttc or anything, they might be a bit flat if they're trying hard and you seem to fall at the drop of a hat so to speak
Congratualtions any way, how wonderful to have 3 dcs

Oh gosh, definitely hormones kicking in tonight, feeling all teary at those lovely msgs, thank you

Those TTC (only two) was very tactful as was in that place once before believe it or not and they were lovely, one coming round end of week to see us too. It was others. I suppose am just highly sensitive too and having come to 12weeks just a big build up of excitement.

lol at 3 is the new 2

also don't forgot most people really just love talking about themseleves and when your pg with your 1st they dron on about how thy where when they whre pg like 40 years ago !

but 2nd time round or thrid they ant really do that, so that maybe why they appear a little under welemed

LOL

Oh i feel better already, thank you! Still lol at droning on about previous PG...

DH had a text saying 'you best tie a knot in it mate' not even a congrats!!!!!

Yes, we had more groans of 'not again' when we announced our third. Although, some asked if it was because we were trying for a girl which seemed to make it okay somehow. I think the fact that they are close together can sometimes be unsettling for some people aswell. I know when we announced no.4 was on the way when no3 was 6m there were even more groans. In the end I never told anyone until I had to.
I think most people expect that you've finished after 2 or find one more understandable if the first 2 are the same sex. After that I think they think you've lost your mind. Which could be true, I suppose...But if it's true you wouldn't know anyway would you
Enjoy your pregnancy and ignore any reactions that you don't like.

also chacha 3 is becoming not quite the norm anymore, and anytime you do something not quite the avrage it makes other people feel funny, but its not really you they feel funny about, but themselves

just to share somthing with you, so you don't feel like the only one,
when we told fil we where expecting he just turns around and says, oh, thought you two would of waited a while to get some decent holidays in first!
what a thoughtless twat!

we where both 30 and newly weds lovely house etc so really there could not of been a better time for us!

i honestly dont think people mean to be as rude as they sometimes are, they just dont think

Thanks for the replies, have also had 'you'll be wanting a girl then' just because we already have 2 boys but guess that's to be expected.

Thanks RRB and Juules. Much appreciated.

most common was "you 2 need to get a hobby..."
but my SIL said what i thought was a really nice thing about subsequent babies, that although you congratulate people about their 1st PG they dont really know what they are letting themselves in for. whereas by the time the 2nd one comes around your life has already changed and so you can just really appreciate the baby . (i dont think ive explained that particularly well...)but it was a nice sentiment.

CONGRATULATIONS

We've recently announced our 2nd pregnancy - dd will be 19 months when baby arrives and ok, it wasn't planned - but we're thrilled! Other people's reactions have been grim to say the least 'thats going to be such hard work' (my dear mother) 'haven't you 2 figured out what causes pregnancy yet?' (family friend) 'I know it's winter but you could have gone for a walk instead' ( work colleague). Only our close friends seem to be genuinely pleased and excited for us. It's sad when such wonderful news is met with anything but joy, dread to think what people will say if we ever get to announce number 3! (I'd love 4)

congratulations!

with 3rd we got 'another one!' and had to explain to people that yes we had boy and girl but didnt stop us wanting more!

oh and 'it obviously wasnt planed' actually he was only planned one,other 2 were suprises!

I have 2 boys, and I had a MC 3 weeks ago, on telling my (very close) sister that we are TTC'ing again, she said "but that means I'll have another lot of presents to buy for birthdays and christmas's"

I am starting to go off her a bit!!

Oh, and no, we are not trying for a girl, in fact another boy would be better for us!

Congratulations on your pregnancy though It is as special as the first no matter what anyone says!

Congratulations!Am also pregnant with dc3 and already have one of each. I've been pleased with the reactions so far - apart from a couple of family members actually forgetting to say congratulations (which I was a bit put out about)I am quite prepared for the 'that'll be hard work, you'll be busy' yadayadayada comments though when we tell more people. I will just smile tight lipped and carry on regardless - it isn't like I don't KNOW that. It does get less exciting for people though I think but don't worry about it!

I would'nt worry about other people's bad reactions to your forth coming arrival.
The main thing is you and the Dp is happy about it all.

Congratualations by the way.

We already had a blue and a pink and people couldn't understand why were were having another baby. Very low key congratulations if we got any at all.

on our second we didn't get the same response, nobody was interested and we got less pressies and support after the birth. This was maybe due to me announcing i was pg when dd was just 3 months old, but we were delighted so why can't everyone else be happy.

Congratulations and I hope you have an enjoyable pregnancy. A baby is always a blessing.

I wont be having anymore, but thats due to a large age gap btw me and dh and he doesnt want dc past the age of 40. But with the step dc we have 4 so thats plenty.

when i announced my 3rd i got lots saying 'ooh you're brave/mad/was it an accident' etc.

you would not believe how many people have asked/presumed she was an accident the hairdresser even asked my mum!

ignore them and be proud

wait till you are on your fifth.....then you get asked all manner of things about why?/had we nothing better to do/how selfish on the planet/did we have no TV/and oh my god you are mad!!!

and .

Even got told by MIL (who is normally fab) that they would pay to get it sorted. I did love her face when she realised I wasn't asking her advice but just telling her tho, and the hasty backtracking (and then the flowers FIL made her buy in apology as he told her off)(and she really should have learnt too, as she also implied the same at pregnancy #3!!)

I hasten to add here tho that she is, in all other ways, quite wonderful!

HUGE CONGRATULATIONS from here tho......and FWIW.....I found number three the easiest baby in the world for our family at settling into routine etc as I was more confident, DH certainly was more confident, and the older girls were LOVELY.