I have a 5 year old daughter. She's never been easy but recently I just don't know what to do with her. She can be a delight and then something happens and it's like a switch flips. She becomes aggressive, screaming, rude and won't come down.
Example is today. I was helping her get her pyjama top off and accidentally caught her hair in so doing. I said I was sorry and she tried to punch me. When her dad and I tried to tell her this was wrong she sat there and pulled rude faces and made noises. Again we said this was unacceptable and we don't behave this way. She did not stop so we said unfortunately we can't go out to do what we had planned this afternoon (Halloween party) and she threw herself down in a screaming tantrum. We have explained she needs to calm down and accept her choices were not good ones, we can apologise and make up and go out. This was met with her bellowing "FINE!!!" running off to her room and she's now sitting there loudly saying "I HATE being a child, I HATE my family, I will NEVER stop being this, my family are STINKY" and so on.
This is so regular. We can't ask her for anything without getting rude faces and "uuuhhhhhhh uhhhhhhhhh" noises made at us, screaming "FINE!" and storming off happens frequently and she just speaks so aggressively.
We've tried the whole connection before correction thing, she gets more than enough attention, she can be fantastic good company but we must be getting something wildly wrong. She's really good for my mum when she has her and I haven't heard anything from school so I guess we are just failing as parents.
We've tried to ask her why she is doing this and how she feels when she starts pulling the faces and she just says she doesn't know and doesn't like this conversation.