My daughter is 2.5years old, we have a 1 year old son. Before my son was born my daughter and her Daddy (my husband) had a wonderful relationship, when our son came along he was, still is clingy to me, she didn't get jealous in the beginning but it came about 10 months later, we've tried to manage it with my spending more 1 on 1 time with her and him taking the baby more.
Things seemed to get better but recently she's started saying she doesn't like Daddy and won't let him put her to bed or silly things like get her a drink, it has to be me. I can see this is hurting my husband, and tbh it's started causing issues in our marriage. For example this evening we went out to fireworks and it was a late one, half 9, well past her bedtime but we had done a late nap to help her. In the car on the way home she was just trying and screaming for me, her dad tried to pass her Teddy and she just screams no, Mummy do it. I put her to bed and came downstairs and he's grumpy and sullen, I try to support him but I get my head ripped off. He's not normally one to be moody, and I know it's because her behaviour hurts him but I have tried talking to her, we've done all bedtimes for her are done by me. I just don't know what else to do, he's a brilliant Dad and she's always adored him and I just can't understand where this has come from. Any advice on helping her through this phase so they can have their bond back and my husband can stop being hurt by it.