What’s your routine for family time / own time / together time?

[PoTayToes80]

Hiya,

FTM to 9 month old. Just looking to here other people’s tips and routines for how they plan their time to book in time for themselves, the family and as a couple.

My partner and I aren’t very organised about it which means a) we’re not getting any quality time just the 2 of us because we’re not planning for it and b) I’m struggling to take time for myself because I’m too tired and frazzled to organise it. I think if I knew I had set times and our week was more routine then we’d both make better use of the time we had.

Also do you have a routine to how you split time on the weekends? Eg mornings off. One day always a family day etc.

Ta!

For dates- we have a Google calendar and if one of us books concert tickets or fancies trying a particular restaurant, it goes in the calendar and then I sort out babysitting with my parents who are v happy to have her. She’s EBF so we only manage to get out solo 1-2 times a month. Some things are unplanned- we will seize the opportunity to nip out and get coffee solo if baby is napping and my mum is with us that day. We still ‘date’ with baby in tow though- we just book an early dinner sitting if we are going out for a meal.

My ‘me-time’ isn’t scheduled unless I need to be out the house so DH doesn’t book a meeting at that time. It’s just a given that if I have had a difficult night- he’ll get her up so I can sleep in, or if I want to go for a run- he just takes her? If I want a long bath scrolling on my phone or reading- I just say so. I’m a SAHM but I always get a couple of hours to myself each day.

Weekends just depend on whatever we have booked. We travel to stay with friends quite often, sometimes we just want to chill. Sometimes one of us will be away for a night. It’s just shoved in the Google calendar and dealt with as and when.