Child with food allergies coming to ds's 4th birthday party

[PetitFilou1]

What do I say to his mum re catering? The party is at a children's farm (they are doing the catering and having been several times before I suspect that they won't cope with can't eat eggs/dairy/etc type requests) The poor boy can't even eat the cake I'm bringing!
Do I ask her to bring something he can eat? Advice please.......

As a parent of an allergic 4 year old, I never mind being being asked to bring our own food at all, and neither does DD1.

So I would call her and ask if there was anything you could do - I'm sure she would reply and say not to bother because she can prepare for him. Nobody wants to be a pain or put anyone out.

My ds had tree nut allergy .

I usually take ds a party box of food and at that age stay at the party to make sure he is safe.

I would ask her if she'd be happier bringing his own food or she could contact the children's farm and discuss with them.
I expect she'll prefer to bring her own.

NIce of you to invite him.It'll be a big thing for the mum as well.

ring the parent and tell her that as you aren't catering you are worried he will havea reaction to the foods. Ask if there is anything you can do and also as a gesture of goodwill i would(if it were me) ask if there is a particular cake he can eat and try and get hold of it for him.

what are tree nuts ggirls?

FWIW DS2 has a milk intolerance and i would have to hover to make sure he didn't overdose on things with milk in

my DS has gluten and dairy problems and I always take his food for him.
It is always nice when somone offers to get him something in ( like my friend who always has a bag of OK popcorn in her cupboard in case we pop in) but his allergies/intolerances are complex and i don't expect anyone to try and cope with that.
More to the point , if a host actually makes a mistake and the food is not ok it will be my child that suffers - so I prefer to take that responsibility myself.
Give the mum a call and ask for advice/help.
I'm sure she'll be fine

tree nuts are all other nuts besides peanuts (which are actually legumes or groundnuts as they don't grow on trees)

almonds
brazil
cashew
pistachio
walnut
pecan
etc

were just realising the going to parties with allergies thing!id do as someone else said ring her and say that as your not catering your worried about the food.i think she'd be pleased you thought of her.
after advice i got on here we now have party food box for ds2 to take along to parties!

Just tell her that the venue can't ensure that the food is alergen free and that you were worried about her ds. Friends son has a peanut allergy and always brings a box of food to parties and does not expect to be catered to - is just grateful when people have her son's saftey in mind.

Thanks all - everyone seems to be thinking on the same lines which is helpful!

Its also helpful if you can tell her what the other children will be having, so that she can pack similar food. Nothing worse than watching others eating pizza and you have to eat sandwiches or vice versa.

Give her a ring, parents of children with allergies are used to this and she will appreciate that you have thought of her sons needs. She would probably prefer to pack up her own food.