Difficult family relationships...who to make guardian for children in worst case scenario

[Itsbeenabadday]

My husband and I both have difficult relationships with parents and some of our siblings - historical emotional and physical abuse on both sides so pretty serious. Other siblings on both sides are child free by choice and live quite unstable (financially and location) lives which seems to suit them just fine as all in their twenties and enjoying their freedom quite rightly. Lots of love for them all but would feel like I am burdening them if I made any of them guardian to 3 chn if the worst happened to me and DH. Close friends all have kids and love them too but most would then end up looking after min 5 kids! Any ideas on how to make this decision?

We picked the people who we thought would love our children the most, who would raise them closest to how we would raise them. We also took out really good life insurance to make sure that we'd be able to give the new guardians enough money to get a big enough house to fit everyone.

Yeah I need to look into life insurance too, you make a good point about a payout that will cover cost of a new house.

We chose friends who we know would love them, even though not necessarily same style of parenting as us. And got good life insurance!