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Leaving toddler with Granny and nanny

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iloveburmese3 · 26/10/2022 13:52

Hi everyone,
My husband and I are going on holiday in December for 3 nights and leaving our 18 month old with a nanny (who she loves) and Granny. I'm worrying she will be very distressed when we are away as she's become clingy recently. What's the right thing to do.. cancel the holiday and get through the clingy stage by staying put? We are very prepared to do so if this is the better thing to do. Please help!

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Phillipa12 · 26/10/2022 14:12

Go and enjoy yourselves. If your dc loves the nanny she will settle nicely and probably won't notice that you are not there. (Sorry) Oh and if you call while you are away it's usually best with a clingy 18 month old to not facetime with them or talk to them as this usually upsets them, just ask nanny/granny for daily updates.

Rowen32 · 26/10/2022 14:12

Have you left her before? It's honestly up to you. I've seen babies being left at a younger age for longer - it isn't something I would do but that's who I am and what I'm comfortable with..
If you've not left her before you could build up to it so have someone new put her to bed first with ye there, then not there, then stay away for one night etc
Aware some parents wouldn't be bothered with this but it's all about comfort and what you want/need as a parent..

pjani · 26/10/2022 18:14

Can you trial a few single nights beforehand and see how they go? If ok, then yes I think it’s ok, if that’s what you want to do.

But I would definitely talk a lot about it beforehand so they know it’s happening, prepare the ground as much as possible, and don’t not FaceTime to avoid upset as recommended above - they will know you’re gone and there is no avoiding some feelings about that.

In future, what about a holiday where you bring your little one, maybe with a grandparent so you get a break too? But overall yes it’s fine and enjoy your break!

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LololaLo2012 · 26/10/2022 18:26

Time for yourself and your partner is very important - go and have a good time!!!

I find that my 3 have always been clingy with me when Im actually there with them around the 18 month mark. Once your aren’t there, as long as they (and you!) are happy with the person taking care of them they are completely fine.

She will be having a fantastic time with her Nanny and Granny getting total spoilt!

Saying all this, you have to do what you feel is best at the time and not have any regrets either way! xx

Abra1t · 26/10/2022 18:28

She’ll be fine and it’s only a short break.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 26/10/2022 18:28

She’s under 2 - the cost to take them with you is negligible. I would add them onto the booking and take them with you.

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 26/10/2022 18:34

Go and enjoy yourselves. You’re not going to scar her by going

grey12 · 26/10/2022 18:42

18 month old, 3 days. You'll be fine 😉 (and I came here to say better not 😂)

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iloveburmese3 · 26/10/2022 18:44

Thank you all so much! Really appreciate your answers and opinions and advice. I'm thinking now of taking her... so maybe I will? Obviously will be less of a holiday but I'll be making memories with her and she won't be sad we won't be together. I think I'm the one who needs to be brave here 🤣 thanks all xx

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AnyRandomName · 26/10/2022 18:48

She won't make memories at 18m but she will significantly change ruin your holiday.

You're leaving her for 3 days with people she knows and loves.

She's going to have a great time being well looked after and probably being very spoilt. And you get to have a holiday and come back refreshed to a toddler that's very happy to see you.

Come on, you know you need to just go on the holiday.

mynameiscalypso · 26/10/2022 18:51

I looked after my 18 month old niece for a similar length of time. She had an absolute blast. They're so resilient and adaptable and she will be thoroughly spoilt I'm sure!

Icantthinkwhat · 26/10/2022 19:23

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 26/10/2022 18:28

She’s under 2 - the cost to take them with you is negligible. I would add them onto the booking and take them with you.

ABSOLUTELY NOT THIS !!

Young children throw a hand-grenade in to a couples relationship.. you and your DP have an opportunity to reconnect as a couple - with fabulous care for your child.. DO NOT MISS THIS CHANCE... a massive boost for your family unit.

ALL the separation and divorce stories from my years of parenting occurred when the mother forgot she was also a partner.. and he felt disregarded .. is that right ? Hell no ! Is it reality.. hell yes !

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iloveburmese3 · 26/10/2022 19:25

Guys you're right! What a terrible idea of mine! Thank you 🙏🏻 and I'm turning into the fun police at home because I'm pregnant with number 2 and constantly moaning, going to bed early.. my husband needs a bit of a change and a reminder who he married. Thanks everyone! Plus she's with people she loves like you say! 🙏🏻

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