My 18 year old DDS has always been a people pleaser and (as a result) lies (a lot). His dad (DP) handles the parenting for him with his exwife (different style- far less strict than I am with my kids so easier to just let him to things his way).
Complaints this week about DSS:
- food in his room have attracted mice (again!). He told me there was one in his bed yesterday when he came home. I said if you make the bed at least you'll be able to see it easily next time. Its clearly from him bringing food into his room and hiding it under the bed to avoid being caught. A few times a month DP does a proper clear out of the room and will find loads of fast food wrappers. DSS will always lie about it. If he's confronted he'll get upset but still won't own up. With the mice - DP in relying on my 10 year old cat to sort out the problem 😑
- he has a terrible habit of not flushing, leaving skidmarks and (weirdly) leaving used cotton buds (earwax) lying around the house. For ear swab, usually he leaves them in normal places (like the bathroom) but today he left a few soiled ones on the banister. I'm almost certain that he has been in my makeup cabinet to get them because the ones in the family bathroom ran out. (No point in asking cause the whole thing will be denied.) Not happy if DSS is now going through my stuff knowingly...
What would you do? I've been refusing to pick up after an (almost) adult and scrub shit stains that have no reason of being there except laziness (it's been like this for years). Currently I'm reporting back to DP and he cleans up and decides what action to take...