13 month old won’t sleep!

[WeeGinge]

I’m hoping someone can point me in the right direction for some advice.
My 13 month old baby just will not sleep. She fights every nap, and is up and down all night. She gets up, and stands in her cot screaming. We try laying her down, stroking her hair etc, and she will drop off for a few seconds. Then she’s standing up and screaming again.
Shes exhausted all the time due to this, and it’s making her miserable. Whenever she does sleep, she’s in a brilliant mood!

We’re at breaking point, as we’re so exhausted and it’s causing a lot of friction between DH and I.
I think because we’re so exhausted. She has never slept through yet. And is still feeding during the night.

Can anyone point me in the direction of sleep training, or methods that worked for them? CO sleeping isn’t an option for us, I’d really like her to be comfortable in her own bed.
help! We’re knackered!

How is she feeding ? At her age this isn't necessary. She needs to know night time is for sleep not up and down feeding all night. Last feed at 7 then bed. You will have to do your research on controlled crying and pick which one you think you can follow but I would say if she's crying most of the night anyway you may aswell go for it !!! But definitely knock the feeding in the head

Hi,

How much sleep is she getting in 24hrs? I have a 13month old who hasn’t slept through yet and still feeds throughout the night. It’s perfectly normal, but I know that normal doesn’t mean it’s not hard!

For us, feeding at night is just the quickest and most effective way to get him back to sleep and our goal is for the whole family to get as much sleep as possible so that works for us. Comfort is also a valid need, so although the feeds might not be nutritionally necessarily they might still be needed for your little one just now.

You mention co-sleeping is not possible for you, for us this is the best way to get sleep but I do understand it isn’t for everyone. He does sleep in his bed until his first wake up though, and the last week or so we have got down to 1-2 wakes overnight so it will get better.

Does she have plenty of exercise and stimulation throughout the day? What does her bedtime routine look like?

it’s really tough so sending lots of solidarity 💕