How wonderful are second (or more) children - a positive thread

[Pheebe]

Hi All

I keep reading threads about how difficult second (or more) babies are, how going back to the dreadful sleepless nights is a nightmare, how you fall out of love with first dcs (!!!) how life is massively more hard work and everything generally sucks to start with, how resistant DH/Ps are to even try because they think it will be so awful...

Well I disagree completely !!! and wanted to share some positive experiences about the arrival of my DS2. I'm hoping this thread will give some comfort to mums ttc second or more bubs and about to be second or more mums.

He arrived at the beginning of November so he's nearly 3 months now. Birth was far quicker and easier than DS1 even though I went 2 weeks over and was induced by ARM. He's been the most calm and relaxed baby I've ever come across, slept for most of the first 5 weeks. He's bottle fed and has taken to that like a dream. Still sleeping brilliantly, in bed at 7pm along with his big brother and we don't see him again til 3-5am apart from a dream feed just before we go to bed. He was so easy we took him on holiday for a week at just 4 weeks old and he was easier to manage than his 3 year old brother. There is more work to do and we're now waking at least once in the night but I can honestly say it hasn't been anything like the shock it was with DS1, neither of us feel sleep deprived or resentful of the loss of sleep. DS1 is besotted and its brought out a caring side or him that is wonderful to see. He's such a good boy that DH is cutting his work down to part time so I can start back part time and we both get lots of time with both our beautiful boys.

I realise how lucky i am before I get flamed!! my aim here is to show the positive side of second or more babies not belittle the struggle some people face

So here's a huge cheer for second babies, they are hard work but the whole experience can be wonderful

Marvellous thread!!
(let's hope my wife doesn't spot it lol)

Might be another year before we get cracking
but we are already massively looking forward to babyJ2!

Having accumulated all this knowledge and experience with dd
we can't wait to do it all again - with a twist, of course,
they're all different and I am so very curious about the next one's
personality and development path.

Not even particularly bothered about the gender,
as long as it's a baby.

Yes, it will be challenging but I can't think of a sweeter challenge.
And if it all gets too much,
I know a good forum full of knowledgable, witty mums (and a few dads)

lovely to read this as am having my second im May so fingers crossed for an easy time xxxx

When I was expecting my second child the lady who clips our dogs told me that the second baby would be 'my' baby, not so much the public expression of my husband's and my commitment to one another and our marriage.

She was sooo right. My daughter felt like an unexpected bounty: a huge gift.

What a lovely thread! Am going to print it out and show to my DP who is being a bit curmudgonly about our 2nd (my first to have myself) child due in April.

Bridie, what a wonderful sentiment. Our DS2 is only just coming up to 3 months, DS1 is the spit of his dad in every way and his is constant shadow at the moment (not that he doesn't need mum too ). I'm kind of hoping DS2 takes after his dad too after all I loved him enough to marry him

Thought I'd share an amazing moment we had today. DS1 (3years) was 'helping' me get DS2 washed and dressed this morning and he suddenly reached over patted my back and said 'thank you mummy for giving me Ben I love him very much' Ahhhh my heart broke

Thanks, Pheebe!

You always hope that there'll be a time, perhaps when they're grown up, that they can be there for one another and provide support. Perhaps after we're all gone!

Exactly my thoughts Bridie, I never wanted DS1 to be an only child. he has lots of cousins but there's something about your own flesh and blood