Baby distant after night away? Help

[Kilminchy123]

Hey guys..

I have a 9 month old baby boy. I’m a SAHM and we are together constantly and co-sleep (please don’t judge) . He is very attached to me . My partner and I had to go away for a night . I left my baby at 5ish (he was going to bed at 7) and he was with my mother whom he is very close with also. He was very upset at bedtime and struggled to get asleep but co-slept with my mother and was just okay. I arrived home at 8ish and video called on the way home and he was crying when he heard my voice. On arrival home he won’t look at me and appears upset at my presence :( But is fine with my partner as he regularly leaves. Has this affected his attachment towards me or will he be okay towards me soon? :(

He will be okay with you, the attachment won’t be effected. This shows a healthy bond despite what some outdated research may tell you.

don’t let any posters tell you that you need to change or do things differently. You sound like a great mama!

Honestly dear, bonding doesn’t disappear over night, he is just punishing you for leaving him behind. He will forget about by tomorrow, as soon as you are back to your regular routine.

He's just pissed that you went away and is having a strop. He'll get over it.

He's just annoyed and miffed you went away it's a natural reaction but the attachment to you isn't broken being fine with his dad is a good thing .

I agree, he’s just angry you didn’t come running when he fussed like you usually do because you were out for a few hours. The bond is still there. And he will get used to not being a Klingon baby. It’s actually healthy at his age to start having short separations now and then. It’s the first step towards being ready for nursery.

It's very very normal, and won't last. When I nannied the babies would often completely blank their mothers when they'd come back from travel. It was so upsetting to their mums, but the babies soon went back to normal.