Last week. Sons dad had him to stay overnight. He’s never very consistent on when he has him. Which has been a battle in itself. He has a new girlfriend every few months. I’ve let a lot of stuff slide in his parenting skills that I have not agreed with.
He had my son at his new girlfriends house. late at night I had a phone call to say son not sleeping and crying for me. I tried to calm son down. But all I could hear was his gf kids in background crying and screaming. This is at midnight. I’m a little concerned as my son is 3 and he’s not asleep. And I’m wondering what the hell is going on. About an hour later I’m getting messages from sons dad saying he’s had enough and wants to kill himself. I’m trying to ask him what’s going on and he said he’s had enough of everything. His job. Life he can’t cope and wants to die. I’m trying to calm him down as I’m panicking as my son is there. He then messages saying I’m done. And he doesn’t reply to any further messages from me saying are you ok please phone me I’m worried.
im now sick with worry and it’s 2am in the morning. And I’m kicking myself now as I had no idea where this gf lived. He’s had so many gf over the last year I’ve lost tracked. I eventually get hold of his parents who live close and has gone round there to get my son out of the house. Sons dad is absolutely drunk. He’s smashed. He’s been drinking all night.
i just cannot believe any parent would think it’s ok to get that drunk whilst caring for a child. I’m not sure what the story is why he’s getting drunk. And why he wants to kill himself I’m sure a lot to do with mental health. He is a drinker but I never thought he would be that stupid. Although I have had suspicions that he’s been drunk or drinking but I have never been able to proof it.
anyway. Two days later was meant to be his day to have our son. He messages me saying what time does he finish nursery he’ll pick him up. As if nothing had happened. He’s not said he’s sorry for what’s happened. Not said what’s going on. He’s taken time off from work due to his mental health. He was sent to a mental place for assessment I think. I just don’t think he’s in the fright frame of mind to be caring for a child.
As if the seriousness of him drinking with our child there seems to be irrelevant to him. Like it was a blip and things can go back to normal. I’m sorry but I just cannot trust him.
ive told him he can see our son but it needs to be supervised ie at his mum or dads house. He rolled his eyes at me. I don’t think he gets how absolutely wrong what he did was. Surely I’m in my right to put some barriers up here. I’ve not said he can’t see him. But no way is he having him overnight.
where do I stand. If he doesn’t agree with me then do I just have to let him have him and sit up all night worrying. It’s going to effect my mental health is that is the case.