Anyone think they want a third while actually only pregnant with second?

[Supersnot123]

Apologies for the slightly weird post… I'm pregnant with my second baby, and have recently realised that I want a third! I just keep thinking things like "oh first kick, that'll only happen one more time".

It's funny, I really don't enjoy being pregnant or the small baby stage, but I feel so sure I'll want another after this one!

I haven't mentioned this to my DH yet as I'm fairly sure he won't want a third… he would have been happy enough to stop at one but I didn't want an only child. We agreed the policy of "one more and see how we feel".

So anyone else feeling/felt the same way? Any suggestions on how/when to approach it with DH?

I’m not sure you need ri aporia I anything at this point?

you can’t really crack on with a third while pregnant with the second. What would be the point of a discussion now?

I think you ought to try and live in the moment with your current pregnancy a bit more.

Ignore the first line of gibberish.

It should read ‘I’m not sure you need to approach anything right now’

Wait and see how you feel when number 2 is here before getting ahead of yourself.

You might have a lovely, chilled out, easy baby... or you might not.

There's no need to decide or approach anything right now, just try and enjoy your current pregnancy and see how your family feels when they arrive.

I felt the same. Still do, DC2 has only just turned 1. Weirdly I didn't want children at all, have a phobia of birth and am so sick in pregnancy. I wish I am like all those other mums I meet who looked so relived after the birth of their second while loudly declaring "I'm done!" I feel as though I got the brooding the wrong way round, as it only occurred after my children came along. DH is not keen ...

I feel completely the opposite. Currently pregnant with dc2 and glad this is the last time I'll be throwing up out my nose with morning sickness 😂

I really wanted 3...until I had my second.

@Skinnermarink and @MeAndAutumnGoHandInHand
I am really trying to savour my current pregnancy! (enjoy might be a bit far!)
I just keep having these little intrusive thoughts telling me it's not the last time!

@FluffMagnet yes that's what I mean! I kind of wish I could be thinking "great, last time I'm sick etc..." but I can't!

Us too! 🤣

We are stopping at just one for financial reasons and I thought I’d be really sad but actually, I don’t want to have to split my time and attention with a sibling. I experienced pregnancy once and don’t see the need to do it again so it really is horses for course 🤷🏻‍♀️

I always thought I wanted 4 kids... Then when DD was very small seriously considered stopping at 1! 😂
But then when she was about 1 I suddenly got mega-broody again!

I always wanted 3 until the 2nd hit about 18 months, he’s now 2.5 and I question daily whos idea even 2 was! Toddlers are hard 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

I can relate, but then DC2 was a tiny tyrannical nightmare and however lovely feeling those kicks may be, I ain't having any more kids!

Hah, this is me exactly, although I've just had number three and still don't feel done! It's like a switch flipped as soon as I gave birth the first time.

16 weeks pregnant with number 2 and have had HG and honestly don’t feel I could go through this again. I’m not a newborn or tiny baby person bath 1-3 is a lovely age, I’ve adored being a toddler mum. I just wish somebody could hand me a shiny new 1 year old rather than a baby! Then number 3 would be tempting

Me too 😂 I had two great pregnancies and longed for a third during my second pregnancy, but DC2 is a nightmare sleeper, super clingy and I’m barely getting by looking after him + DD. A third would push me over the edge I think…

Totally agree, babies are terrible but toddlers are fab!
I think every month since DD was about 8 months (now 20 months) I've told DH that this is me new favourite age!