6 month old isn’t cuddly

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As the title says really. DD1 was super cuddly, would fall asleep on me, lay her head on my chest and just be generally cuddly. DD2 will not sleep on me except for her last bottle before she fells asleep for the night or when she wakes at night and I soothe her back to sleep. So basically the only way she’ll cuddle in to me is if she’s going down for the night.
Is this normal for a 6 month old? I’m not trying to compare my 2 children cos even at 6 months old it’s clear that they are very different but I guess I feel a bit sad she’s not cuddly.

At 5 months old my dd was too nosey for cuddles. She changed though, was a cuddly older baby, toddler and child.

Shrs still cuddly now at 16

Mine definitely had different cuddly stages from each other.

Thank you for your replies! The more I sit here and think about it I’m wondering if it’s just cos she’s my second so I don’t have as much time to sit and cuddle her like I did with dd1. Even when she was tiny I would put her down in her Moses basket when asleep to spend time with dd1 or clean the house or just have 5 mins to my self 🤪. So I’m wondering if maybe she doesn’t know how to cuddle cos I’m not as cuddly with her - which makes me so mega sad. 😩

My mum tells me I was never cuddly!

My second has never been cuddly. She is with her boyfriend now.

My eldest was never cuddly. I always wondered if I’d done something wrong or failed to create an attachment. DC2 came out and would have slept back on my womb every night if she could. She’s the most affectionate snuggle bug ever. The eldest remains uncuddly!

Same here with second DD! Won't sleep on my chest etc. J oh BF and s he won't even feed from me for comfort when crying which DD1 did a lot. I think it's a combo of personality and second baby as you say above.

That should say I BF and she*

DD2 is and always has been super cuddly.

DD1 is like cuddling a nervous baby deer. Wriggling fidgeting and off again within 30 seconds.

And yet… it is DD1 who would sleep only on me as a baby and still prefers to be cuddled to sleep… age nearly 10.

It makes no sense OP but one thing I am sure of, it’s inherent and not down to anything you did or didn’t do.

Both my DS's hated cuddles until they were toddlers. Absolutely refused to be cuddled to sleep etc and far preferred being put in their cot awake in a dark room.

DS1 got cuddlier from 18m+ and DS2 seems to be heading the same way. He's 16m now and I get snippets of affection from time to time now.

DS1 is 9 now and is still very cuddly with me now so I think it was just hjs way as a baby. Time will tell with DS2. :D

None of mine were cuddly at 6 months, they were incredibly wriggly and nosy and quite frankly too busy it seemed. They all became very cuddly after about a year. Hang in there!

My 7mo isn't and has never been cuddly, although he does like to be held.

It bothered me until I asked my NCT group if any of their babies were cuddly and they all said no!

My DS is 4 months old and is the least cuddly baby ever, always has been. Wriggles and squirms the second he’s done feeding, much too nosey to stay put!
To be fair, I’m an extremely non-cuddly person myself (was the same as a baby according to DM) so it’s no surprise, but it’s very annoying as he’s literally the only person I want to cuddle!

Hopefully your DD will grow to like cuddles more as she gets older x

Thank you for your replies! Maybe it’s more normal than I think and to do with individual personalities cos tbh I’m not really a cuddler 🤦🏼‍♀️😂I am with my children and DP but I just thought all babies were suppose be cuddly lol.

My first not a cuddler. I used to put on tv so she'd sit beside me. Still not a cuddler.
My second so physically affectionate. Always cuddling and snuggling. Still likes hugs at 19 and a boy!

What is DD1 like now? I'm so worried that my baby doesn't like to be cuddles / comforted

My DD1 always loved a cuddle, still does now.
This was about DD2! Loves a cuddle now! Definitely an independent baby. She’s 8 months now and crawling but will come over for quick cuddles of reassurance!

My eldest was never cuddly unless ill. Even now at two she does quick hugs but no cuddling on the sofa or anything - she just finds it boring!

DD2 is only four months but do far seems much more cuddly.