Hi all, DD is 3.5 and up until maybe two months ago she had the usual tantrums but wasn't too bad. But over the past 6/8
weeks her anger has increased to the point where I'm worried it may be abnormal. During tantrums she has started flailing her arms, kicking, smacking the nearest object, throwing herself onto the floor/her bed, and screaming so hard she's made herself cough/gag. Yesterday she had a 10 minute flailing/screaming fit because I wouldn't let her wear a pair of trousers that were dirty! She will also throw things and kick/smack me or my partner (her dad). We've never hit her and barely ever raise our voices so she's not mimicking what she sees/hears.
She is very quick to anger as well (although I suppose that's normal for toddlers). I would say she has 3-4 big tantrums a day. She goes to nursery and normally behaves well there although there have been a couple of incidents recently of her shouting at other children.
I know I sound like I'm complaining a lot but when she's not angry she's a wonderful child. Very bright, chatty, and funny. But she has such a temper! We did welcome her little brother 4 months ago (she's very good with him) so maybe a lot of it is jealousy/attention seeking? When she is upset or angry we will get onto her level and tell her it's okay to feel angry ect but she mustn't hit or scream as it's not kind. Sometimes it works, sometimes it's like she hasn't even heard us. I've been in tears at points because she has just screamed and tantrumed all day.
She is our first child so I have no clue if this is normal or not?
Thank you