Do things change?

[Jojojoj]

Baby is 9.5 Mo and me and DP have struggled so much. We’ve hit breaking point numerous times and I just won’der do we get back to a new normal?

i just feel so unloved (not by my baby by him) and I hate being in my house sometimes but I don’t have. Anywhere to go if I did call it quits

and deep down I know we must love eachother we’re just really struggling

This is incredible common. I would say to anyone who is not in an abusive relationship to not end your relationship within the first year. The book how not to hate your husband after kids is really good. You both need to read it for it to be helpful.

Having a baby is like a bomb going off in a relationship. It's also the let taboo to admit you are not enjoying being a mum/dad. You need time to adjust. And remember, everything is just a 'phase' with babies-nothing lasts for ever. Good luck 😁

I agree with pp.

Having a baby isn't like what you see in films, all happy everyday, loving their partner even more etc.
in reality it's a shock to the system.

We went through some rough patches, we missed our old life, our freedom and the lack of sleep is a killer in itself.

It does get better.

Thanks everyone I’m feeling a bit hopeful now

there has been so many days I’ve thought do I even love this man anymore? And he just keeps saying I’m ‘angry’

but I can’t sleep through our 9.5mo waking every 2 hours (still😫) so I’m extremely sleep deprived