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Oh jeez please help me

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 19:54

4.5 month old baby will.not.sleep.

Nothing, Nada. He's been awake for fucking hours

Dark room, white noise shaun the fucking sheep or whatever that thing is called not working.

We have a routine. All gone to shit the last 3 nights. Crying, smiling, crying. I've left him, he cried for a bit then just led fussing.

I'm sat on the stairs rocking back and forth like a mad woman.

Please, just send help. I feel like I last slept in 1999

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 19:56

Going through absolute meltdowns followed by smiley and cooing. Yes he is clearly over tired at this point

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 19:57

Oh and he's been awake since 3.30. Tried every hour to get him to nap. Literal waste of time

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sageandbasil · 13/10/2022 19:58

I found this age the worst because as a newborn it's expected then they get better then the 4 month sleep regressjon hits. It's BRUTAL!

Give some calpol and see if that helps?xx

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sageandbasil · 13/10/2022 19:58

Would putting him in his pram and going for a walk he'll settle him?

Wasywasydoodah · 13/10/2022 19:58

Can you go for a drive?

Wasywasydoodah · 13/10/2022 19:59

sageandbasil · 13/10/2022 19:58

I found this age the worst because as a newborn it's expected then they get better then the 4 month sleep regressjon hits. It's BRUTAL!

Give some calpol and see if that helps?xx

Yep, definitely brutal

123ZYX · 13/10/2022 20:00

Have you tried putting him in his car seat and going for a drive? On my worst ever day with DS I phoned my mum in tears and said I needed help and was coming over. Put DS in the car and he was asleep by the end of our road.

If you don't drive, put him in his pram and go for a walk or push him up and down your living room

123ZYX · 13/10/2022 20:01

Also, do you have baby's dad with you? If nothing else is working, hand your DS over and have a cup of tea and a biscuit. If he's not sleeping, he can not sleep with his dad instead of you, while you recharge

Pixiedust1234 · 13/10/2022 20:01

I think i got through it by staying very quietly in the room. In the dark, not speaking or touching until they fell asleep. I have been known to fall asleep before the baby according to dh Blush

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:02

I've tried a walk. He nodded off for about 1 minute. Waiting for my partner to come home to take him for a drive. It is BRUTAL and oh my lawd. @sageandbasil you're 1000% right. Everyone said oh it gets better about 16 weeks after the newborn stage. Yeah... ok...

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:03

Pixiedust1234 · 13/10/2022 20:01

I think i got through it by staying very quietly in the room. In the dark, not speaking or touching until they fell asleep. I have been known to fall asleep before the baby according to dh Blush

Literally me right now quietly preying to any baby/sleep gods ...

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Pixiedust1234 · 13/10/2022 20:04

DO NOT SNEEZE

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:05

Andddddd he's just done a poo.
Be right back. Just going to the other room to scream into a pillow before changing him...

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Ivy90 · 13/10/2022 20:06

They have a big sleep regression at that age - sorry!

oneuptwodown · 13/10/2022 20:07

Try thinking ahead to when he’s 15 and you won’t be able to rouse him before midday after a solid 14 hour sleep 😀 They’re troubling little fuckers sometimes but by god they’re so goddam gorgeous too 😍

Figgywiggywoo · 13/10/2022 20:10

Maybe start again from scratch with bedtime? I found that helped sometime for no bloody rational reason.
eventually he’ll sleep. Says she with a 4yo draped across my lap not sleeping either….

buggeredmyleg · 13/10/2022 20:15

Pay him back when he's 21 with stunt hoovering the morning after he's had a big night out on the lash.

Iheartmykyndle · 13/10/2022 20:17

The dreaded 4 month sleep regression. It does end eventually. I can't say when but it will end. Get a nap in during the day if you can and it's £1 cake with a coffee in Costa day tomorrow. ☕

sandytooth · 13/10/2022 20:18

He might be alright now he's done a poo? Mine used to be a right nightmare when they needed a poo

EcoCustard · 13/10/2022 20:19

DC1 had a permanent sleep regression from birth till 3 so you have my sympathy. To keep my sanity I went on a lot of walks at all hours of the evening & night. I also went for a lot of drives, just for some respite from his crying. I drove from one McDonald’s to another 30 miles a few times for coffee. Go for a walk, drive or snuggle up on the sofa and watch something he might doze off to. It gets better, I have to summon wild horses now to awaken him from his bed.

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:28

Oh im literally say here plotting how I will repay him when he has a stonking hangover at 18!

He closed his eyes for about 2 minutes while i changed him but then wide awake again cooing at me.

Just restarting his bedtime routine.

Great shout on the Costa day tomorrow. I may call early and warn them they may need to double stock

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sandytooth · 13/10/2022 20:29

Is he teething?

sandytooth · 13/10/2022 20:30

You'll get through it. Sounds incredibly tough.

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:30

Oh and yep gave some calpol just incase anything else is bothering him

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Cluelessfirstimer · 13/10/2022 20:31

sandytooth · 13/10/2022 20:29

Is he teething?

Possibly... he has been dribbling and chewing his hands a lot

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