Ptsd over SS

[Biscuit07]

I apologise if I come across as a paranoid mess.
I am.
I am just looking for someone to tell me I'm being stupid in all honestly.
Back story:
6 years ago my partner was a teacher and a student made a claim that he had sent her 'pictures' my parter was arrested and investigated and because he lived with me and I have a daughter social services got involved.
Completely understandable.
Anyway he wasn't allowed to stay in my home whilst the investigation was going on. Again I agree.
They checked me over and did surprise visits at my house. It's absolutely traumatised me. But I did understand so I followed everything they asked and turned up to every meeting.
They repeatedly told me that everything was fine with me. And that it wasn't me they were worried about.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and the police ring me to tell me that they're dropping the case and that all of my partners devices had been checked. Students had been interviewed and there was absolutely no evidence.. Nothing on his phone or laptop and that they were dropping the charges completely.
I felt so much relief. Not only was it dropped but my partner had been 'checked' so I felt safe.
Social services however were not as happy and they filed the accusation against him as "unsubstantiated" meaning they didn't know if he did. Or didn't do it.
Anyway after a few months of my daughter begging him to come back and my nerves calmed that this man had been completely checked.
We all tried to move on.
6 years later and he desperately wants a baby of his own.
But I am absolutely terrified that they social services will get involved. Its ruining my life because I would love to have a baby with him. He's been through so much and he's managed to put it behind him but I just can't get pregnant until I know they won't get involved.
I'm convinced they will treat him like a risk.
Even though the police assured me there was nothing to find.
Please someone tell me I'm crazy, that will actually help!

Do SS know he is living with you again or did they believe the relationship ended?

If they know you are together I would jam thought that it would be for you to have children together.

what a worry for you.

When it was all closed there was no limitations. He was allowed around my daughter again.
He was also allowed to return to teaching as long as he disclosed that this claim had been made about him.
But I just cannot shake off the fear.

I'm sure it will all be fine with SS in that case - sorry you are worrying so much

You need to understand the difference between the criminal and civil law systems.

For criminal cases to succeed there must be corroboration and proof beyond reasonable doubt. Most child sexual abuse cases don't get criminal convictions as there aren't witnesses or forensic evidence.

Social work comes under civil law. There is a lower burden of proof for court action- 'on the balance of probabilities'. This is essential. Eg if a child makes a disclosure of abuse this means the perpetrator can be legally prevented from having contact with them.

Lots of men don't have criminal convictions but do have civil legal orders stopping them having contact with their own or other children.

In your case though it seems that no pictures were ever found? Did you ever see the social work reports written about him/you? Is there a chance there's evidence you don't know about. SW can't disclose details to you without his consent so he could have kept details hidden.

If there really was no case to answer then the most that would happen is an initial enquiry eg a phone call/ planned home visit then case closed.

If there's more than you are aware of it could proceed to a full investigation.

Can you use Claire's law check first to do a check on him?