Am i failing my child?

[LetsBekindx]

my ds has just started reception and seems happy, says he's happy. The school is a small village school, i don't live in the village or have friends/family there. The other children seem to be relatively close, either by being related or living on the same street etc.
I feel im really failing him by not trying to befriend the parents of the children, i do not have the confidence to just walk up to a bunch of people and introduce myself etc. Just seems so difficult as everyone knows one another!
He has said a couple of time no one plays with me and it breaks my heart, we don't have any friends with children so he doesn't have any friends out side of school either
This is making me miserable!

Oh this is heart wrenching OP - just do it! Go up and say hello. What about getting involved with something as a way to ‘indirectly’ meet and chat to parents? Any activities at school you could volunteer to assist with, or what about a local organisation in the village you can assist with. Even as a one off you could use it as a way to just chit chat! I’m sure everyone is nervous not just you. Hard when you’ve not got the confidence but just go for it you’ll feel great xxxx

Could you perhaps speak with a teacher if your ds have any closer friends and ask the teacher to pass notes for parents that you are new to the area and would love to arrange some play dates?
I did that in the nursery and now have few mum friends and we meet for play dates, playground, walks, etc?

Village schools are notoriously insular to outsiders. I went to one for three years. My mum’s friends’ kids were never my friends and one actually was the ringleader of the girls who bullied me. Visiting their house so my mum could have a coffee and being sent out into the garden with her was horrible. I would let him find his feet and don’t be too hard on yourself.

This must be really hard for you and I do empathise.

I don't think you're failing your child, but I do think you should put some effort in on his behalf. I would try to catch another parent alone kn the playground or on the walk up to the school gate and just strike up a conversation.

Keep doing it. Eventually you'll probably end up with everyones numbers and have a class WhatsApp group.