20 month old doesn't talk

[SABDELLAHI]

Hi,

Hope you are well.

I have a 20 month old who does not talk or say words at all. To communicate he will hand lead us to what he wants.

He doesn't listen to his name. We call him all day and he doesn't acknowledge that we're calling him.

He understands when you say "sit on the chair", "go upstairs", "water".

His eye connect is okay. He will look at you occasionally when you talk to him.

I have raised this with HV who has advised it's okay. Some kids talk late.

Is anyones little one the same ? Will he talk?

My ds is turning 2 in 2 weeks and all he can say is Mum, Dada and No. I've been worried about it but no one seems concerned. He's got his review in a couple weeks as I asked for it to be brought forward because of his speech. He goes nursery and they don't seem concerned either

I work in a preschool and all our new 2 year olds are being referred for speech and language. They have about 5 words between them. It's not uncommon, a lot of it is attributed to lockdown. He'll talk eventually, you just need to keep talking to him and giving him time to reply/copy what you're saying

Obvious question, has he had a hearing check?

@dogmum00 I have also had to push for the review at 2 years old due to his speech

Mine didn't until he turned two and he had caught up and beyond in time for school. Now 13 with an impressive vocabulary. He is rubbish at foreign languages though. So nothing to panic about but that said if you're offered the option of going on a waiting list for help, I'd take it, you can always take yourself off it later.

@TeddyBeans I have heard this from my sister who is a preschool assistant.

I do talk to him all day. He just ignores me .

He can hear the doorbell ring or my phone vibrate . But he doesn't pay attention to when I talk to him or call his name . Which is a big worry

@ErrolTheDragon yes hearing is fine . Had it checked last month.

Have you done the MCHAT? Give it a Google.

@MolliciousIntent I just did the MCHAT on Google. The result is High risk .

That must feel pretty scary, but it gives you something solid to go off. Take that info to your HV and GP and ask for further support and advice. It's going to be OK OP, your son has a loving, engaged, caring mother who wants the best for him, and that's why he's going to be absolutely fine.

Hi @SABDELLAHI I hope you & your son are doing well. I know this is an old thread but I wondered if I could ask how he’s doing now? I could have written your post about my 20month old. I’m wavering whether to push for a referral or wait & see. Thanks in advance!

Hi @MrsK2022 we're very well thanks. How are you ?

My boy is turning 3 years old in December and still does not talk or say words. Advised by health visitors to send him to play group. We sent him when he was 27 months old. Just to help him socialise. The playgroup actually picked up on his delayed speech and communication. So they red flagged him and wrote up an action plan to set goals for him to Achieve.

Get as much help as you can for your child. Speech therapy lessons, play and stay . If you can I would recommend sending the child to play group. I really does help. We did go to a private nursery to begin with but my boy didn't like it . We travel 20 mins everyday to send him playgroup where he likes it.

Feel free to private message me x don't lose hope. Our baby's just have their own pace . We'll get there in the end .

Hey @SABDELLAHI thank you so much for replying, so kind of you. Glad you are both ok, we’re all okay too (despite the worrying from my side). So good to know that play group has helped him with his development, I’ll defo keep that in mind & will start trying to get him some help. I’ve been worrying so much, sometimes feel like I’m talking to a brick wall. Then I feel terrible for feeling like that. You are so right though, they will get there in the end. Thanks again for your kindness & best wishes to you both for the future 🤗xx